I don’t know why but lately I’ve really been struggling with feelings of inadequacy.
It feels like everywhere I turn someone is doing something better than I ever could.
Thoughts going through my head a lot telling me I’m not pretty enough, skinny enough, a good enough mom or wife, a good enough blogger or talented enough makeup artist.
I swear I spend half the day tearing myself down, then trying to reassure myself and then tearing myself down again.
It gets a little exhausting.
I’ve felt like this before and I have found there are a few ways to rid myself of the totally self destructive cycle.
Here’s what I’ve done in the past:
First: Admit it.
For some reason I feel a whole ton better when I just get it off my back to someone who has my back.
Like right now. I’m just saying “Hey, I’m feeling insecure!”
It seems like an embarrassing thing to admit but once I just put it out there, I feel better.
Like, I’ve given that internal battle a name and now it doesn’t seem so hard to squash.
Second: Find the root and replant it where it belongs.
Usually, for me, it’s a three part problem.
Part one: I’m doing a lot of comparisons. Social media is a KILLER for this. If I’m feeling even a smidge insecure one scroll session on instagram can triple it. It’s a snowball effect but once I notice it’s happening (and I admit it) I can usually consciously change my perspective by complimenting and congratulating those on my feed instead of comparing myself to them.
Part two: I’m not giving it 100%.
Listen, I can tell myself all day long that I’m wonderful and amazing and all of that but if I don’t follow that up with action it will never make me feel any better. I have found that if I try to make improvements, even small ones, it can make a world of difference.
Part three: I’m just thinking about me too much altogether.
The truth is it’s impossible to be having these internal battles about being good enough if I’m busy thinking about or helping others. The quickest way for me to get a re-do on how I feel about myself has always been by getting excited thinking about someone else.
So, I’m coming to you for some inspiration.
I’ve already admitted it
I found the root.
& I’m working on some small but big changes (getting better organized & challenging myself with some things I’m usually too lazy for:)
Now I want to do some service! I know part of that is just keeping my eyes peeled for chances around me but, since it’s Christmas, I was also hoping to hear some good ideas for you guys!
Do you have any cool experiences or fun ways for sharing the Christmas spirit of giving?
I know just reading them and making a plan will make me feel excited and happy!