My most beautiful things about motherhood.

I often think about how much I enjoy being a mom. How much more I enjoy it than I thought I would. And how much more I enjoy it when I focus on all of the truly enjoyable aspects there are to it. So I thought I’d share some of the best things that motherhood has brought to my life …and I kinda hoped you would too. I really love relishing in all the happiness sometimes!

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Being able to find excitement in so many more things

One of my friends asked me recently if Christmas was more fun before or after having a kid.
Which was a no brainer. After, definitely. NO question!
Remember how magical Christmas was when YOU were a kid? Being a parent is JUST like that. Maybe even better.
Seeing and feeling all of that excitement through them is amazing but then being the person who gets to plan and prepare the whole thing…that’s like, so much better!
I even love kids movies now and get almost as excited as he does about squinkies or action figures, I imagine as he grows and finds new talents and interests I’ll be able to broaden mine as well. It’s like having a whole new way to experience life through someones fresh (or sometimes quite muddy) perspective.

Motherhood makes everything sweeter.

As I’ve talked about before, I wasn’t dying to be a mom, before I accidentally became one. I thought I’d live and get as much out of life as possible before I had kids, because once I did that would be..you know..the end of my life.  I felt like the warnings to wait from other parents came often. Begging me like Adam Sandler on Billy Madison did to the kid who was excited to go to highschool. Squeezing his chubby cheeks yelling  “STAY HERE STAY AS LONG AS YOU CAN! FOR THE LOVE OF ALL THAT IS GOOD AND HOLY, CHERISH IT!”

Much to my surprise I felt quite the opposite after I had Christian. I felt like life made so much more sense. I enjoyed and got so much more out of everything now that I could share it with him. I wished, in a way, that I could go back and have had him longer. I look forward to enjoying life with him, not in spite of him or when he’s asleep or before he was born.
Sure I enjoy when he goes to sleep or sleeps over at his grandma’s house too, but I was very surprised by how much he enriched my life in every way.

I love all living things more than I did before

I have always been a lover of people. They just do it for me.
When Christian was born, though, I felt like my heart grew three sizes bigger.
I see his face in every small baby or animal and instantly love it more. I think of him when someone upsets me, how much their parents must love them and want them to be treated with kindness and respect. I think of him when I get critical with myself or my body. How sad would I be if Christian felt like that about himself? How silly would I think he was? He has given me so much more love and understanding to spread around.

It makes my love for my husband stronger

Nick and I dated long before I had Christian. I totally fell for him. His good looks, his goodness, the way he thinks. It didn’t compare much to the way I feel about him now though, after just under 2 years of being in a family with him. Having someone, maybe the only one, who loves your child the way you do, who sacrifices for them the way you do and who shows them a perfect example of how they should treat their wife when they grow up is the most bonding experience I can think of. It’s far more romantic than any honeymoon getaway or candlelight dinner could be.

It helps me stay focused on what’s important in life.

If I didn’t have a little 3 foot reminder of how unimportant certain things were I might forget. In fact, before I had him I forgot A LOT. I still do but it only lasts so long now when, at any moment, I can get wrapped up in a hug by such a pure little human being who knows that the only REALLY important things in life are being together and loving each other.

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69 thoughts on “My most beautiful things about motherhood.

  1. So beautiful…thank you for the reminder of the most important things. My husband, who is by my side through everything in life; good, bad, and ugly (sometimes really ugly), is my partner in everything. I trust him fully and completely.

  2. Such a beautiful post! Very heart- felt. I feel exactly the same way about my two little sons. You articulated it all so well. Have to wipe the tears away now :)

  3. Cara, thank you for this beautiful post. I am 12 weeks pregnant with our first baby and I am so ready to be a mother. Reading this makes me even more excited! And I’m glad I get to walk through pregnancy right along with you!

  4. “…who shows them a perfect example of how they should treat their wife when they grow up is the most bonding experience I can think of. It’s far more romantic than any honeymoon getaway or candlelight dinner could be.” Cara – that is SO TRUE! Giving your child(ren) a role model and allowing them to see how loving and respectful a partnership can be is a beautiful gift…for you all!

  5. Cara, thank you so much for sharing your experience as a mom. I share the same anxieties you once had about motherhood, and your stories confer so much hope. I’m so used to hearing and reading horrifying stories about motherhood, that your voice is so important for women like me.

  6. Such a great post! It’s easy to get sucked into all of the talk about how hard being a mother is…while it can be difficult at times, I can’t image a more blessed calling in life! It was so amazing getting the chance to meet you at Snap and my eye brows are rocking :) Thanks!

  7. Watching them sleep, then seeing their excited faces, ready to start a NEW DAY! Not groaning about having to “get up already….ugh it’s Monday…” etc. Watching the sunrise every morning for a whole summer with my baby who thought 5am was a perfect wake up time… Just one more crazy YouTube song to dance to before bed… Just ONE more… The best part? Seeing three peoples faces light up when they see me, like I’m the best thing in the world, and that reminder that I HAVE WORTH. They see the real me, and they think I’m awesome! I never thought it was possible!

  8. I love that you talked about how people say things like “oh when you have kids your life is over!” WHAT?? I don’t have kids, but to me, the idea of having this new life begin makes me think your life is a parent is kind of starting over… You get to experience everything through their eyes, like Christmas! How FUN is that???

  9. I can’t wait to have children because of all of the reasons you expressed in this post. Loved everything about this. Thanks for starting my day right!!

  10. I couldn’t agree more. My now-husband & I were only together 2 months when I (oops) got pregnant. That little man changed my world in more wonderful ways than I ever could have imagined. 3 years later, & we’re 2 months away from meeting our little girl. I can’t wait. :)

  11. Well, I certainly agree! Motherhood is I believe one of the most important roles you have during your life. Yes, enjoy it while they are young and learning. Time does seem to fly by and then like my 2 children will be grown, married and with a family of their own. Then you wonder where in the world did all the time go!!

  12. My mom is a preschool teacher and one day (around Christmas) she heard one of her children singing “Fleas on a dog, fleas on a dog” – the child was really singing “Feliz Navidad”! Too cute and funny!

  13. Also, just wanted to commend all of you on your uplifting aspects of parenthood – I get so bogged down by all the mommy-martyrs and daddy-martyrs online – although I am well aware parenting is no easy task, you wonder why some people even had children in the first place when they act as if EVERYTHING about having a child is such a chore. I feel so bad for their kids b/c you know they sense their parents’ attitude and it makes me sad for the parents as they are missing all the wonderful aspects of parenting that you all have mentioned.

  14. Love this post! I love my kids so much and I had just asked my husband last night if it sounds weird that my baby fits in my arms like a perfect puzzle piece? Like he is meant to be there forever. My husband said no, of course not. I try to cherish every moment with my kids but sometimes you do get wrapped up in life and it’s hectic ways. It’s good to have a little person to remind you to stop and relish in a warm hug for a few more seconds than necessary. Thanks for always being true to you and your wonderful posts, I always look forward to them!

    Katrina

  15. This is a great post! I sometimes momentarily “forget” what a blessing they are too, but my six year old is my sunshine. Last night I was pretty sick. I was sleeping soundly until the thundering of little shoes, charging up the stairs and almost running down the hall startled me. But then, as quiet as a mouse, she opened the door, tiptoed in and delivered the softest little kiss on my cheek and whispered, “I love you, mommy.” Oh…my heart is so full. I’m so blessed!

    Sarah

  16. This was a fantastic post for me today! Thank you so much for sharing! I’m 10 days away from my due date with my first child. I’m definitely in the weird phase of “get this thing out of me” but “oh gosh that means I will have a baby” and “I have no idea what I’m doing” but “I can’t wait to meet this little guy.” This post made me feel 100 times better and I can’t wait for him to get here!

  17. What beautiful thoughts, Cara. I was a single parent who raised three boys alone. I am so proud of the wonderful men they have become. It wasn’t easy, but I must have done something right. Enjoy these little lives as much as you can because in what seems to be a minute, they’re grown, working, and talking to each other about pensions and medical benefits instead of video games! Best of luck to you and your wonderful family. Joanne

  18. Love this! I might just have to write my own list! I know one of the beautiful things for me is I have never felt so unconditionally loved and accepted by anyone more than my children. I thought I would offer my children a safe place to land when they were having a bad day, but they do the same for me, My world can seem all out of shape but when I sit down and cuddle and connect with one of my boys the love I feel from them rights the world!

  19. Thankyou for sharing such positive thoughts! I too was often freaked out by negativity when I was pregnant, and often felt like I was battling against it in order to remain full of hope. And I have LOVED being a momma, not that it doesn’t come with challenges, but seriously the joy of it is so much greater. Thankyou again for sharing.

  20. I love your blog but I’m not a commenter, however, I couldn’t resist with this post. I too have a husband who loves my first son, had out of wedlock, like his own and it’s astounding. We have two more children together and life just continues to get better and better. Thank you for sharing the depth of your heart, so much more meaningful than beauty tips as much as I love those as well! Good job Cara!

  21. WOW… You are such a strong and wonderful woman and mother. I certainly enjoy things so much more now that my Josh is in my life. He is the light in our world. Amazing job on this post Cara!

  22. Hi Cara – I have never commented on your blog but am a long time reader. I wanted to thank you so much for this post! I’m almost 5 months pregnant after a very very long battle with anorexia and it has been a very challenging experience. Reading ths post gave me hope that this is all worth it and for that I thank you!

  23. Thank you for posting this!!! I’m 29 weeks pregnant and all anyone tells me is the bad parts of being pregnant and having a baby. This is my first pregnancy and I’m choosing to enjoy it and I’m looking forward to meeting my little boy in just a couple of months! He’ll totally be worth losing sleep over.

    • Awww… It makes my heart sad to hear that people are only telling you the not so fun parts of being a parent.
      Of course being a Mommy can be stressful at times; your creating and raising an actual human being. But I can honestly tell you that even on the days when my 2 sweet princesses (2 and 4) start acting… Hmmm, let’s just say ‘not so princess’ like, I still wouldn’t trade them for the happiest day ever if it meant they wouldn’t be there! It’s crazy because when you find that person that completes you and just makes you super happy, you love them more than anything. Your heart just fills up when you think of them…. And then you have a baby♡ The amount of love that you are going to feel the first time you lay your eyes on that beautiful baby is literally going to take your breath away and make you wonder how on earth you ever made it this far without this perfect tiny little human♡ NOTHING will ever matter again like your baby does! Things that you thought were so important to you are going to seem trivial. You have actually made the choice to allow your heart to walk around outside of your body.
      I get so excited for new Mommy’s and Daddy’s for that very reason… Because I know how totally amazing that feeling is when you see your child for the first time. It’s unbelievable!
      I’m sure your going to be a great mom. You have so many amazing things coming your way. Don’t let anyone dull your excitement

  24. Awesome post, thank you so much for sharing your heart. I never, ever wanted kids for many, many reasons, then one day I changed my mind. My husband was absolutely thrilled. We have a 10 yr old boy. I never thought I could adore someone so much! He is the very best thing that has ever happened to me and I am so blessed to get to be his mom. I can’t forget my hubby either… He is an awesome dad!

  25. I love being a mom, my daughter is everything that is great and beautiful in this world. Frankly, I don’t warm up to people quickly- I’m much more reserved and cynical, but she is ball of beautiful wild sunshine that everyone adores. She makes friends everywhere and everyone she meets falls in love with her. I also love watching my husband be a father. He loves his little girl so much and is completely wrapped around her finger. Seeing him dressed up in a tiara and braclets while playing with barbie princesses is probably the sexiest thing I’ve ever seen.

  26. So true Cara. I too never wanted children,and had decided that,at a very young age. I had so many reasons not to have any children and couldn’t think of any good enough reason to go back on that choice. I got married and my husband knew I didn’t want children. A few years later I decided I wasn’t being fair and all on my on I made the choice to have a child. Now that child is 2 years old and I love him so much. I can feel like a kid again through him. I am still me but u have also changed a lot for the better. Life is great when you have a child to share it with!

  27. Love this, Cara. You are truly beautiful inside and out! My husband and I waited 5 years before having our first (and currently only) child. If I could go back and have her sooner, I absolutely would. She has made my life so much more meaningful. I’ve learned so much from her, and I LOVE to watch her learn and grow. Being a mom is hard, but the blessings and opportunities that come from it are most definitely worth it!

  28. I couldn’t agree more on every one of your points! My daughter is the absolute light of my life. She brings her father and I more joy than I could have ever imagined possible, as cliche as that might sound! Sometimes I feel like I am living inside of a Hallmark card ;) Haha. So glad you share the same love for your family and I am very excited for you about your new addition!

  29. I never realized how much motherhood could change a person, or how much it teaches you about yourself. It truly is one of the greatest gifts. I often times feel like my heart may explode from all the love and happiness I feel from being a mother. Thank you for being an amazing inspiration to so many! Love your blog sooo much!

  30. It was really nice to read this. Kind of like a reminder. I have two sons, ages 2 and 4. It was super easy with my first one. Now that I have both of them I get so overwhelmed! I’m outnumbered lol I’ve locked myself in the bathroom and cried just because I get so overwhelmed while they’re banging on the bathroom door laughing and screaming. Maybe it’s because I don’t have anybody to watch them for a night or even a few hours…but I just get so stressed out. I think its great that you all can be so positive about it. I love my sons so much, but I just need a short break sometimes…I’m glad that you have such a large family and a great support system, that will help you be the best mother you can be. xoxo!

  31. I so appreciate this! I was married about the time you and Nick were, and like you I have felt little urge to have children, nay have feared it entirely. There is so much telling you that children are the end, it’s nice to hear that they are the beginning for a change :)

  32. This is beautiful! I’m pregnant with my first and at time have normal first time mom nerves but this has made me so much more excited!! Thank you!!

  33. Beautiful words! And the best thing is that the relationship grows and changes as they grow and change. My son is now 30 and my daughter is 25 and I love them more than ever. They are not only my children but they are now also my friends…it is awesome! Being a mother is the best experience a woman can ever experience!

  34. This was the highest quality blog post I have read. What a wonderful way to end an evening and keep in mind when I start my day tomorrow! Thank you :)

  35. I was reflecting on this all just yesterday as I watched my only child so far, 1 year and a half little girl, explore and so enjoy picking up rocks. The way she just leaps into my arms from higher stairs without even looking or worrying that I might not catch her. Her absolute joy and excitement over the smallest things like a old man wearing a hat, or a balloon or a duck or some cheerios. I think one of the things about being a mom that touches me the most is realizing, humbly, that there is nothing in all the world MORE precious or miraculous or innocent or sweet or joyful than her, and she’s mine, she’s my great blessing that I didn’t earn by some merit of my own. She’s a testament of God’s goodness and love and his creations and He gave her to me. She came unplanned and I wasn’t ready but each day brings this treasure of loving her and caring for her and everything has changed for the better with her in my life!

  36. I am so in love with this post!

    The only thing I would add is how I can accept myself now. I used to worry about my figure and looks a lot before having kids but now I just think, okay so I have a few stretch marks and my boobs don’t exactly stay where they are when I take my bra off but I would do it all again and a thousand times more for my daughter! Xx

  37. This was the most beautiful thing I’ve read in awhile :) Thank you for sharing, you’re a great mom <3

  38. What a wonderful post! I enjoy motherhood more than I thought I would as well…considering I never really wanted to have kids. I had a rough childhood and I didn’t want to subject any child to the things that happened to me. I was afraid of being a mom, because I didn’t want to mess up as bad as some of the people that raised me messed up. Being a mom is tough, but I try and look at how innocent and happy my kids are…they are so good at being positive, and letting things go. I admire them!

    xo,

    That Comfort Girl

  39. You’re just such a beautiful person. We are on the cusp of deciding to have kids or not and this just makes it sound so much better than scary. Thank you for the post. :)

  40. I really appreciate this post. Even though I always theoretically wanted to become a mother “someday,” that day has still never come for me and I’m not getting any younger. Now that my husband and I are thinking of starting our own family in the next year or so, my fears about “my life being over” have multiplied.

    This post was so beautiful, and it opened my eyes in a whole new way to motherhood—that it is enriching, not restrictive.

    Thank you!

  41. I just feel empathetic toward those women who read this blog and are trying to conceive but have been unsuccessful. In one way or another, the vast majority of your posts somehow bring up your pregnancy. It’s exciting and I’m happy for you, but I would imagine that women who used to come here as an escape from the sorrows of life (including infertility) are now being bombarded with the figurative rubbing of salt in their emotional wounds. I wouldn’t imagine they’d want to stick around if that were the case.

    While I’m sure this post is beautiful (I didn’t read it myself) it kind of suggests that people who are unable to have children are really going to miss out in life. It makes me sad.

    I’m pregnant myself so no, I’m not bitter. I do feel for others though. I’m not suggesting that you aren’t entitled to talk about your personal life on your blog, I’m just bringing up this point as food for thought. You DO ask for reader feedback from time to time, so that’s my two cents. Take it or leave it.

    Have a good day!

  42. Thank you for posting this! My husband and I are expecting our first baby any day now and we were just talking about how our feelings range from pure joy to absolute fear. I really enjoy your posts about life!

  43. Dear Cara,

    You’re my favorite blogger for so many reasons. My 4 little boys are tucked in bed right now and I got on your site just to finally relax and check out your latest makeover. Then I came across this little beauty of a post and now I’m all red-nosed and crying. You are the best! Not only can you make anyone look like a supermodel, but you can also remind us of what really matters in life. And you’re absolutely right, life is so much better with these little people! I’m so often tempted to miss my old, selfish life and then someone like you comes along and brings me back to reality! My boys and I will pray for many blessings for you and and your babies and entire family! Thanks for all your help……especially with HACing! :)

    Love,
    Rebecca

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  46. GOSH! This post made me emotional! I’m ready to be a mama and I cant tell you how many friends urge “DON’T HAVE KIDS YET!” I’ve always thought kids only make life better. Sure there are stressful moments and moments when you just want to go to the bathroom alone (LOL!) But lil ones add SO much more to your life. I so appreciate your sweet words and mommy wisdom.

  47. I think I just fell in love with you even more. Having a bit of a rough day and that just made me smile and gave me hope. “Enjoy the little things, for one day you may look back and realize they were the big things.”

  48. What a great perspective. Makes me want to be a mama even more :) Thank you for sharing Cara, hope you have an amazing day!

  49. This is so true. Your words could have come from my moutb. I was scared of motherhood too, but what people don’t tell you is that it may be crazy hard work, and the lows may feel really low, but, by gosh the highs feel so high.
    Being a parent is like having the Ready Break Glow ( do you have ready break in the US?) You might be exhausted on the outside, your physical appearance may be drastically worse off ( god I look pasty), but you glow from inside in a way only a parent can do :) lovely words, thank you. B xxx

  50. Thank you for putting my feelings about motherhood into beautiful words…I was never the person who always wanted to be a mom, but now it amazes me EVERY day how much I love it and live for my child. He has truly made me a better person, and has enriched my life far more than I could have hoped. Even with the tough times of being a parent, the positive FAR outweighs the negative. Good luck with your growing family and happy early Mother’s Day!

  51. Just wanted to comment on Karen’s post above. I guess I fit into that category of “struggling” with this after three devastating miscarriages in a row. It is hard to see all those around you have struggled but been able to conceive and go on to have children. It’s hard to see those who don’t seem to struggle with it all. It’s hard when you want it so bad and it doesn’t seem to be working out. BUT, it seems Cara has gone through an a awful lot of tough things in her life, and I’m glad to see her find happiness and “glow” with the joy of being able to be pregnant with another child. I’m glad she has such a positive view of motherhood and I can tell by the comments that many others appreciate it too. I don’t think she was being insensitive to post this. Are we supposed to never share our joyous moments because someone else is hurting? Our moments of joy and pain ebb and flow, and I think that’s part of life. To learn to rejoice with others despite our personal pain and to remember others are in pain even during our moments of joy. I think she should continue to share what’s in her heart. That’s always the best way.

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