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Hair talk.

So last week I mentioned that I am trying to get my bleached hair back into shape.
I think that there are a lot of things you can do to make your hair softer, silkier, more manageable and altogether prettier.
I figure the silver lining to my damaged locks is that I will be able to hunt down and try every product, natural remedy and old wives tale until I find the best and the brightest of the bunch.

If you have damaged hair: maybe you can join me in this adventure and share your results as well (so we can have a wide array of hair types and opinions)
If you already have the perfect thing; I am hoping you share that too!
If we work together we are gonna have the softest sexiest hair of our lives:)
I know it.

You know I don’t like to report on things until I know for sure that I love them. Which takes many uses, comparisons and sometimes before and afters. Yet I want you guys to be able to try what I am trying as well, so I’ll tell you now what I’m doing so far and what my first impression is. I’ll keep up updated and do a round up when I come to some solid conclusions

Healthy hair!

(ahhh the healthier days!)

Wen: Not exactly a first impression, I couldn’t use it when I had my extensions in though because conditioner breaks down the glue. So I am elated to be back in the saddle. (more about that HERE) Although, my friend Marissa told me over the weekend (when I asked her about her STUNNING hair) she washes hers with suave coconut conditioner!

Suave Coconut Conditioner: She says instead of shampooing use the conditioner and scrub really good rinse then follow if a vinegar rinse. Haven’t tried this yet but I’m pretty excited to.

Vinegar Rinse: I was really skeptical about this when I saw it on pinterest but with her recommendation, I gave it a shot. After washing you rinse your hair with it. Which closes the cuticle and makes it look shiny and soft. My biggest concern was that I would smell like a salad afterward but I am sniffing my hair as we speak and there isn’t a trace of vinegar. (when it was went I could still smell it a little  The coolest part was that (as per her recommendation) I used about 10 drops of blue food coloring and 3 or 4 drops of red to tone it. Totally worked. Which was nice because as I said in my toning post the other day, the shimmering lights purple shampoo is very drying and obviously has sulfates. Initially I am very impressed and hopeful about this one.

Kerastase Mask & Elixir: This is amazing and very expensive. I love it so far but I used it mostly when I have my extensions in so I want to try it without so I can tell the difference better.

Coconut oil: Using it to keep the hair hydrated. I rub it into the ends during the day.

Taking my biotin and making sure to eat my veggies: Biotin is the hair health megavitamin. Hair health and body health are linked. Plus I just need more veggies anyway.

No Blow Drying: This is the single biggest difference I can see in my hair. I am not sure if its just my hair texture but my hair gets damaged so fast and easily by blow drying. I am avoiding it like the plague right now.

I’m also scrimping on:
curling irons:cutting it down to once a week
hairspray: by twirling or pin setting my curls I can get the body and hold I need with out a lot of alcoholic products.
Brushing my hair when it’s wet: Hair is a lot weaker when soaked. I’m leaving it alone in it’s vulnerable state.

I can’t wait to hear what you guys have to say!
I’m also pretty excited to see how I did on the Allure contest last week and check out the challenges for this week, It’s the last week of the contest so it all comes down to this! Fingers crossed that I am still standing! If I am be sure to VOTE and to check out what I found at the drugstore for my $50 challenge.
(sometimes I get to the end of a post and have the distinct feeling that I have WELL overused exclamation points, I’m having that feeling right now so if you noticed that too, my apologies. It would be a very different world if all of us girls were actually exclaiming when we talked as much as we do when we write!!!!!!! haha)


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    May 13, 2013 at 5:17 am

    I started having horrible hair loss after taking a certain birth control….it’s been over a yr. I take my biotin, and never blowdry my hair!!! I also use Phytocane capsules, they help with manageability-thinning & make your hair feel thicker. I also swear by Its a Ten Miracle conditioner!!!!! It’s unbelievable!!!! Can’t wait to see what you come up with!!! Thank you Cara for all that you do! You’ve single handedly changed how I see myself!!! And are an inspiration!!!! thank you <3

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    May 13, 2013 at 5:37 am

    Love these suggestions, but how do you make or use the vinegar rinse? Did you put the food coloring in the whole bottle and just sorta splash it on? or….? spray bottle?

    I’m a big fan of combing my hair in the shower with a wide tooth comb, that way i don’t have to worry about brushing it when it’s wet and i feel like it helps to distribute the wen throughout the length of my hair.

    oddly enough, i just bought coconut oil and acv yesterday for something else, so glad to hear i had a few of these items in my pantry.

    thanks again mama and fingers & toes crossed that you’re this week’s winner AGAIN! ; )


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    May 13, 2013 at 5:43 am

    I use Argan oil

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    Debra Rubin-Roberts
    May 13, 2013 at 5:44 am

    I have naturally curly hair. Curly hair tends to be dry to begin with and since I also color my hair, it was really dry and porous. It is like a sponge and soaks up any and all moisture that gets near it. I have tried just about EVERY product for dry hair that exist and here is what I have found works best for me…

    WASH: Hair Rules daily cleansing cream moisture-rich no-suds shampoo.

    This stuff is AMAZING! It lifts out any residue yet when I rinse it out, my hair feels conditioned! I then follow with

    CONDITIONER: Feria Professional Color Moisturizing Treatment.,default,pd.html

    I use it as directed (but more than once a week) and my hair feels incredible!

    STYLING PRODUCTS: For styling I use Garnier Fructis Style Sleek & Shine Intensely Smooth Leave-In Conditioning Cream.

    And then follow with Smooth ‘n Shine Polishing Instant Repair Hair Polisher, Extra Strength

    And let my hair air dry. I end up with shiny, spirally and separated curls.

    On the days I blow dry my hair straight, instead of the Garnier Fructis Style Sleek & Shine Intensely Smooth Leave-In Conditioning Cream I substitute Hair Rules Blow Out Your Curls Styling Cream

    Hope you find these products work for you too.

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    Madelaine Sessions
    May 13, 2013 at 5:46 am

    You should try structure fort by Dikson. It repairs your hair and makes it way soft! It repaired my hair when I had fried it from going blonde!

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    May 13, 2013 at 5:50 am

    Ok ladies here’s what I love… Organix Renewing Moroccan Argan Oil Treatment… AMAZING… Price $8. Smell is great not too strong and over powering.. I have long hair that needs that extra boost of shine and softness.. After washing my hair I apply this product, then I go on with my showering leaving this in to set. I rinse with cooler temp water. If I have the time and am just washing my hair I will do the good old shower cap method which is great.. I find that when time is an issue using this as my conditioner leaves me with results I am happy with but when time isn’t the shower cap is even better! Not crazy about the product container bc it has a separate lid and getting water in the jar is annoying but it will pour off. A bottle that you could squeeze would be nice.. Worth a shot though for the price and results I have gotten. I have used the Kenra Masque and was more happy with this product I think the price though and results also again make me choose Organix. I don’t feel as bad using this product more bc I know its budget friendly with the Kenra I find myself saving it for that special hair day. Every day is a special hair day though right ladies!

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    Emily (@SassyinSequins)
    May 13, 2013 at 5:53 am

    I love coconut oil on my hair (and on my body)! It’s like a body cure all!

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    Maddy Cane
    May 13, 2013 at 5:55 am

    I lve Argan Oil, it makes such a difference to my hair, I am definitely going to try the vinegar rinse though! xx
    Maddy from UNSTITCHEDD 

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    May 13, 2013 at 5:56 am

    Hi Cara
    You are totally amazing and have inspired me in so many ways. Have you tried Philip Kingsley elasticizer-we can get it in UK and I know he has a clinic in New York. It is about £20 (english pounds a tub) but lasts a very long time and REALLY WORKS ON my bleached hair to make it bouncy/smooth/shiny again despite processing. Worth a shot! Keep doing what you are doing Cara you are the best!XLori

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    May 13, 2013 at 6:10 am

    The Coppola keratin treatment!! It’s awesome. I have crazy, curly, dry hair. The frizz was insane. So y friend mentioned the keratin treatment (which is very pricey but SO worth it). My hair is so soft and healthy and all the keratin does is put proteins you lose (from dyeing, shampooing, and just aging in general) back into your hair. Ive been getting the treatment about every 4-6 months for about 4 years now and my hair really isn’t curly anymore. However if I use cheap shampoo or go into pools my curls start to come back. So ill wear my old curly hair for a few days and realize how much I don’t miss it and get the treatment done again.

    It’s heaven cara. My friend gave me a huge discount so I usually only paid for the keratin and no labor (just a big tip) and I’m sure if you know someone or have friends that do hair def. mention it to them.

    And do not do the Brazilian keratin. I’ve heard of people losing their hair. :-/ not cool

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      May 14, 2013 at 6:42 pm

      I’m not sure what the regulations are for where you live, but those treatments (Coppola, Brazilian, iStraight, Keratin Complex) have been banned in Canada because they contain dangerously high levels of formaldehyde which has been linked to cancer and other health risks. The treatments could be different for where you live though. Just want everyone to be safe 🙂

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    Martha C
    May 13, 2013 at 6:12 am

    Any thoughts on prenatal vitamins? I am taking a CVS brand vitamin right now ( just regular, not prenatal) it says it has collagen for skin and hair. I am taking it twice a day and have noticed thicker hair in 2 weeks.

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      May 21, 2013 at 10:26 pm

      The thing about prenatal vitamins is they have a very high dosage of iron which is not good for you! Especially to be taking 2 times a day!

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    May 13, 2013 at 6:16 am

    Oh, Cara, how do I love thee. I am so glad I found your blog. I look forward to it every morning..and the anticipation for the new post when it’s time for a day off. I love your skill, generosity with information, excitement, and real life perspective that makes trying new things an option! Thank you Thank you Thank you- just had to say it!!

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      February 8, 2014 at 5:15 pm

      Right?! Love you Cara. I always have your blog up. <3

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    Liz Tea Bee
    May 13, 2013 at 6:28 am

    I use ACV almost every time I wash my hair. I have it in a flip spout bottle (I got mine at The Container Store). I fill it about half way with ACV then top it off with water and some essential oil to combat the smell in shower.
    Then I use the spout the target it along my scalp. Since it’s colder than the shower water I can feel it running down. Then I use my fingers to rub it into my scalp and down my hair, squirting more at the ends as needed. I find I use less of it and get better coverage then when I tried to pour it.

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      May 13, 2013 at 9:29 am

      do you to this after conditioning or skip that all together?

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        Liz Tea Bee
        May 13, 2013 at 1:58 pm

        Skip conditioner entirely. I don’t need it if I use the ACV.

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    Chloé Elizabeth
    May 13, 2013 at 6:36 am

    I have recently been using coconut oil and it does wonders. I put it in dry hair (pre-shower) and leave it on for at least 20 minutes. Then I wash out, shampoo and condition as usual. My hair feels so much more manageable and soft. I never used to use hairspray but have started using it to hold my loose curls all day and although it works I have noticed how dry my hair gets with it (so definitely less hairspray). Biotin: check. Less hair-drying: check. Brushing hair when wet: I use a tangle teezer if I want to brush through any product, i.e. leave in conditioner, oil etc. By the way I think this is a great idea for a post and if it results in lots of opinions that are guaranteed to work, we should all have near perfect hair, right?! 🙂 Thanks for sharing!

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    Tamara Buschel (@theworkoutmama)
    May 13, 2013 at 6:37 am

    I need hair help too! Excited to try a few of those products for myself 😉

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    May 13, 2013 at 6:38 am

    Your friend Marissa is right on the money with the Suave conditioners! They are so cheap that you can try them one after another to find which one is right for your hair. The coconut one is popular with co-washers (people who wash with conditioner only, yes it’s a “thing”), but I found it left my very fine, thinning hair a little too limp — for me the Ocean Breeze was perfect. Suave Almond + Shea is also very popular with ladies who have curly locks. Any varieties you’ve tried that you don’t end up using can be repurposed as shaving cream. And don’t get me started on the amazing price point and wide availability!

    Since I started washing with conditioner only, I don’t have the really bad color fading that I was getting before. Cycling in a violet shampoo once a week gets any product residues out of my hair as well, so it’s two-for-one clarifying and toning.

    I can’t wait to try the food coloring in the vinegar rinse, genius!

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      May 13, 2013 at 7:01 am

      I’ve used John Freida’s Frizz Ease (for heat in the yellow bottle) for years now even though I avoid and hardly use blow dryers, irons etc, it has worked out great. I prefer the consistency over the original formula. I’ve tried a lot of other products as well, some I liked more than others but I always go back to this.

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      May 13, 2013 at 9:08 am

      I agree!! I started with WEN, then after reading several reviews from it, decided to try washing my hair with Suave conditioner and realized my hair felt exactly the same for way cheaper! I have since switched to Tresemme and my hair feels amazing! The key is to scrub your scalp, plus I hear that helps promote hair growth and as an added bonus it feels great. Then I finger comb my hair and let it sit for the remaining of my shower. Occasionally I use a clarifying shampoo, but not very often. I too use Suave conditioner as a shaving cream.

      I’m going to try the vinegar rinse today, sounds like a great way add softness and shine.

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        May 14, 2013 at 6:01 am

        I also forgot to mention, that I am taking 5000 mg of biotin and a prenatal vitamin nightly. My daughter is 3 months old, tomorrow…gosh! I noticed my eyelashes seemed to be thinning after she was born, it looked like I cut them off with scissors! So I read somewhere (pinterest probably) that if you rub vaseline into your eyelashes every night the will become luscious again. I’ve been doing it for about 3 weeks now and they are amazingly long and thick.

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    May 13, 2013 at 6:55 am

    I LOVE LOVE LOVE Arbonne’s new Pure Vibrance hair care set. It’s a four product set: shampoo, conditioner, hair mask and a mousse. My hair became so dry & brittle after under going some serious medical treatments and this stuff has restored the shine and bounce to my hair. It is so easy to manage now whereas before I was using 5 different products to try to get my hair under control. It’s free of harmful chemicals like sulfates. Can’t say enough good things about it (or Arbonne in general).

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    May 13, 2013 at 7:11 am

    Love this! I started running into some hair issues after my pregnancy and was terrified! I have always had good hair but it was falling out like crazy and just dull! I started using Nioxin and within a week my hair loss greatly decreased. I also take phyto hair supplements which are awesome! They make my hair grow super fast and keep it shinny. I posted about it on my blog a few weeks ago. You can read it here:

    Im going to try the vinegar today! Thanks for posting!


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    May 13, 2013 at 7:25 am

    I don’t have super damaged hair, but I do a couple of easy things to keep it in pretty good shape, especially since I’ve been using my curling iron more. I use Joice K-pak shampoo and conditioner which I absolutely love. I also use Joico’s chelating shampoo once a week (when possible, some weeks I skip) to help eleminate buildup from my hair and I also use a deep conditioner once a week (I just use whatever store brand is on sale, have tried several. Also lots of DIY versions available). Before I heat style I use a heat protectant spray and/or a leave-in conditioner and I also like to use either a hair oil or Tresemme split end treatment on the ends of my hair.

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    May 13, 2013 at 7:28 am

    I just tried Pantene overnight repair treatment. I’m not a big fan of the brand as a rule, but this stuff made my hair sooooo soft the next morning. You put it on dry hair, go to sleep and its super soft the next day. No greasiness either!! Love it so far.
    Hope you had a fabulous Mothers Day and looking forward to your win this week!! You have really inspired me to try harder to be my best self, Cara. Thank You so much. You are the best!!!!

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    May 13, 2013 at 7:35 am

    Coconut Oil & Shea Butter work best for restoring/maintaining the health of my hair. When I run out of either of these, my cheap alternative is Vaseline… yes, VASELINE. Even the generic petroleum jelly works. Obviously, you don’t need to use very much, applying a little to wet hair really locks the moisture in the strands. Comes right out with a clarifying shampoo.

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    May 13, 2013 at 7:37 am

    I am obsessed with the Kerastase Elixir – expensive? Yes, but a little goes a long way. I also use Redken All Soft Heavy Cream conditioner once a week or whenever my hair feels especially dry. Again, a little goes a long way with this stuff.

    I’ve have dry, curly hair that I wash more frequently than I should and these two products have saved me. I finally have soft shiny hair after years of trying.

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    May 13, 2013 at 7:43 am

    I swear by Clear Shampoo and Conditioner, especially the Color and Damage Repair line. There is a noticeable difference in the moisture of my hair when I don’t use it. I also use the Suave Moroccan oil. It is so good! I’m so impressed by these items and that I can have great hair with only a $15 price tag for all three products.

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    May 13, 2013 at 7:49 am

    After having my son, I became extremetly sensitive to certain products that I used to use and love before. After taking birth control, my scalp became SO dry and not even dandruff shampoos worked. Pair that with the fact that I have a young kid and never have time for haircuts, I needed some at home solutions.
    For split ends, I’ve been just trimming them myself when I see them and that actually helped a lot.
    For the dry scalp and also trying to keep my hair healthy and is grows out (rather than looking dry and scraggly and people thinking ‘you need a haircut!’ I’ve been doing a rosemary hair rinse- AMAZING! I take a pot of water and add 3-4 sprigs of fresh rosemary and bring the water to a boil, once it’s boiling I turn it down to the lowest setting and let it simmer for 30 min. Then I let it cool all together and once it’s cooled down, I strain out the rosemary and keep the infused water in a jar in the fridge. During a shower you wash and conditioner your hair as normal, and then pour some rosemary water all over your hair- squeeze it out but do NOT rinse – just let it air dry.
    I’m not sure how it would look on bleach blonde hair as the water gets a little pinkish, but my hair is a very light brown and it hasn’t altered the colour in any way. I noticed that made a huge difference in the health of my scalp and the shine and softness of my hair. I love it. So I thought I’d share that little tip!

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      May 13, 2013 at 10:16 am

      Thanks for the tip Heather! I will definitely try this.

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    May 13, 2013 at 8:00 am

    I have a question- how can I get my hair to look respectable without blowdrying and flat ironing? My hair is kinda wavy, and when I wear it wavy, I feel like it looks bad. Maybe I’m using the wrong products though. I use a little mousse and some gloss drops for shine. But the mousse makes it feel crunchy. Can you give me some tips on how to wear my hair wavy without it looking so bad, and recommend any products? Also, any tips on how to straighten my hair without blowdrying and flat ironing?

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      May 13, 2013 at 12:53 pm

      I use a curl defining cream for my natural waves. I even use it with the curling iron and it holds so so so well! Ive been using “Herbal Essences Totally Twisted Curl Define & Hold Creme” and I’m in LOVE with it.

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      June 1, 2013 at 6:59 pm

      I use Tigi moisturizing cream and Aveno leave in conditoner after my shower. In the summer, I add a little Silk gel to it to keep the frizz down. I “brush” my hair and part it with my fingers and then wrap my hair in a towel for 5 minutes. When I take it out, I fluff my roots with my fingers and then DON’T TOUCH IT!!!

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    May 13, 2013 at 8:03 am

    I love “Joico” “K-Pak”, and it smells like banana’s! Also, “It’s a 10” hair mask, and leave in. They are a little pricey but they really work!

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    Kris Atkins
    May 13, 2013 at 8:04 am

    I use coconut oil as a deep conditioner once a week and it’s made a huge difference! I’ve been deep conditioning once a week for YEARS, but with products and the like. And those worked pretty well, but coconut oil is so. much. better. And better for my hair, and cheaper! Win win win. I’m a SAHM now, so I’ve started only blow drying my hair for special occasions (like dates and church, although not really for church because it’s at 9, and I usually have meetings at 7:30, and oh yeah, I have to get a little rug rat fed and ready too :). Some days I’ll straighten the ends, occasionally I’ll use my curling wand, but I usually just leave as is and secure with a claw. (My hair is not so pretty in its natural state, very uneven, unattractive waves. my hair used to be stick straight–why oh why is it changing? :p) I used to wear my hair up every day but I realized that’s not very good for it either, as the elastic pulls at the hairs and such. Anyhow. The point of this is–my hair is so much healthier!!

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    sydney goehring
    May 13, 2013 at 8:10 am

    I blow dry my hair maybe once or twice a month. Straighten it about four times a month. So it doesnt really get too damaged. I also started using Moroccan Oil Shampoo and Conditioner, super expensive, but I can TOTALLY tell a difference when I use the moroccan oil vs walmart shampoo. My hair is softer and smells amazing, so for me I think its work it. I take pride in my hair. My hair dresser always says how my hair is very heathly. It also helps to have dark hair vs light hair. I started getting peekaboo highlights and I can definitely tell how blonde can damage your hair. Thats why I try my best to take care of it. I LOVE pretty hair!! 🙂
    congrats on winning all your contests, ive been voting at least once or twice a week. you rock!!!

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    May 13, 2013 at 8:59 am

    Hi! I agree with the blow drying part! I’ve tried apple cider vinegar before, it worked, but the effects didn’t seem to last for more than a day.

    One remedy I love to use is blended avocado and olive oil, for use root to tip and left on for 30 minutes. It balanced out my oily hair, and I didn’t need to wash my hair for almost 4 days. My hair also felt silky and shiny for the entire time. (warning: it is a messy one!)

    I’ll give the coconut oil a shot next! Thanks!

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      May 13, 2013 at 11:34 am

      How did you rinse this out Rebecca? Sounds like something I’d like to try, but I wanna go in with a plan ; ) thanks!!

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      Jessica Helland
      May 15, 2013 at 8:17 am

      White/distilled vinegar will probably last longer. It has a lower pH than apple cider vinegar and will help get rid of more minerals and product build up.

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    May 13, 2013 at 9:19 am

    Congrats on the win AGAIN!!! Now that I work at home it’s a lot easier to skip my ‘hairy’ hair routine which was washing & blow drying every other day (at least). I used to have really oily hair but have noticed as I get older (sigh) its more on dry side so I can now skip washing until about every 3rd day. I’ve noticed my hair is growing faster, less split ends since I stopped using the heat so much. I also swear by Kevin Murphy hair products. My must have product in this line is the Young Again Immortelle leave-in treatment oil. It is so lightweight. I actually switched from MorroccanOil to the Immortelle b/c I liked it better 🙂 It is lil pricey but lasts a long time b/c even with my long hair it doesn’t take much. I even had some people ask me if I used Wen once I started using Immortelle!

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    May 13, 2013 at 9:20 am

    I’ve just started washing with a baking soda rinse and then using the macadamia hair mask (once a week) that Lovechugs mentioned on her blog. I mix 1/4 cup baking soda with water into a spray bottle and spray my roots and ends, scrub, then rinse. It really does get it clean, which I was surprised because my hair is really dirty after a week. I’m going to try the ACV rinse also. My hair is having so much breakage at the ends, which is probably a result of the heat I’ve been using every day.

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    May 13, 2013 at 9:41 am

    Cara, after your last post about the brassy hair I went in search of a toning shampoo (because I didn’t know they existed!) I went to ulta and bought 2 different kinds. I ended up loving this less expensive one.

    It smells great, it works, and my hair actually felt pretty soft after using it

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    Pam DeSanto
    May 13, 2013 at 10:01 am

    Is there anyone in St. Louis, Mo you would recommend for make-up that is similar to you?

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    May 13, 2013 at 10:58 am

    Hi Cara.. I also have had dry, brittle hair from highlighting, coloring my hair over the past 10 years. A few products that have worked amazingly are VO5 hot oil therapy intense moisturizing treatment( it’s been around forever) also Ojon restorative hair treatment Plus, and infusion 23 leave In treatment. When I do need to wash my hair I use L’oreal EverCreme cleansing conditioner and as an additional leave in for my curly hair I use a dime size amount of any conditioner you have in your shower I rub it into my hands as if I was moisturizing my hands quickly very quickly rinse my hands with water for like 2 seconds flip my hair over and scrunch this watered down conditioner through my hair.

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    May 13, 2013 at 11:05 am

    I haven’t tried this brand of shampoo and conditioner yet, but I love Moroccan argon oil so I wanted to try this.

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    Sydney Clark
    May 13, 2013 at 11:08 am

    I am in cosmo school and coloring your hair is very easy here. I’ve been doing it the last 5 weeks now. Terrible on my hair. I started to use K-pak by joico. They have shampoo and conditioner. They also have a deep conditioner and I use restore or something along those lines. When I get out I run my fingers threw my hair and put matrix conditioning balm! Holy cow! AMAZING! I try to do it 2-3 times a week. It’s great though!

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    May 13, 2013 at 11:13 am

    I don’t have damaged hair, but I do have dry, curly hair. What works well for me is a hair mask of just blended avocado and coconut milk. I blend some up, freeze it in portions, then thaw for use. I probably should use it once a month. Just distribute through dry, maybe slightly damp hair, leave on under a shower cap or something for 30-60 minutes, then rinse and use a mild shampoo on the roots.

    I have tried the vinegar rinse (I used apple cider vinegar) but my hair STUNK of vinegar all day (even when dry). Maybe my hair just soaked it up too much. Don’t know. 🙁

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    May 13, 2013 at 11:34 am

    Bed Head’s Ego Boost is the most amazing product. It’s a leave in conditioner and split end mender…give it a try! PS congrats on being the winner for every single week!!! I’m so happy for you and I’m glad people love you as much as I do!

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    May 13, 2013 at 11:54 am

    My beauty guru suggested I check out your blog,..and I’m hooked! Thanks for all the great advice! I love Kerastase nutriv shampoo,..yes it is on the expensive side,..but a little goes a long way. I have medium length hair and I only use a dab and it’s a good cleanser without drying. I can see a major diff. In my hair even if I just use it a couple times a week and use a less expensive shampoo the rest of the time. As a matter of fact, long as I use the kerastase shampoo,..#1,.. I can basically use any conditioner and my hair feels great! Also,.kerastase masque intense is awesome! Just a pea size amount (once a week) spreads through medium length hair and makes hair so soft and it lasts about a week. Kerastase is expensive but well worth it, especially to use on a limited basis. Having said that,..I’ve tried every shampoo known to man and you just can’t beat Tresemme shampoo and onditioner,..any kind works great for me,’s so cheap too,.if you use the kerastase shampoo with the Tresemme conditioner it’s perfect.

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    May 13, 2013 at 12:02 pm

    Loreal Total Repair Damage Erasing Balm. It is an amazing deep conditioner. I am in LOVE with it.

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    Annie @ Annie's City Kitchen
    May 13, 2013 at 12:36 pm

    This could not have come at a better time because I feel like I’m in a bit of a crisis. Recently, I’ve been having so much breakage and shedding and it’s freaking me out! 🙁 I’ve tried a lot of the suggestions you’ve already mentioned and I think patience is really the key here. I’m so eager to read more about your thoughts because I really need it myself.

    In terms of styling, I’ve been kicking it old school with some sponge curlers. If you get the direction right, it looks the same if I had used a curling iron, I can sleep in them overnight and it’s WAY less damage. Loving it right now.

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    May 13, 2013 at 12:47 pm

    I had done horrible damage to my hair by stripping it almost 2 years ago. Like you, I had been dying my hair black for FOREVER but wanted a change. I went to brown. But my hair was SUPER damaged. I had to completely baby it. I washed it every few days and I did Moroccan Oil Repair mask and left it on for 10 minutes in the shower then rinsed and did regular conditioner. I also would use Orofluido Elixer on my ends to hydrate them. (But I LOVE Kerastase Elixer!!) I took Biotin/Collagen supplements daily. I air dried my hair. I only heat styled my hair once it dried after washing on that day. I only use a wide tooth comb. I do a coconut oil mask once every month, but leave it on overnight. I use those hair ties that are crease-less. And I wore my hair up a lot to keep it from being more damaged. I’m just about 2 years later, and my hair is long, shiny, healthy and much better! Since my hair was short when it was damaged, and I wanted it long, I still have about 3 inches in my ends that are damaged. But they are far healthier than before! I just make sure I get some Orofluido Elixer oil in the ends to keep them hydrated and looking…well FAKING the health 😉 Good luck!!!!!! (PS: sock buns were my go-to when I had my hair up! Everything was super protected!)

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    Kaitlyn Todd
    May 13, 2013 at 1:07 pm

    try using your coconut oil as an overnight mask or as long as you can during the day. work it into the ends and then the scalp until all your hair is covered in the oil. and then just wash it out regularly. it does wonders!

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    May 13, 2013 at 1:15 pm

    About 10 years ago I worked at a professional beauty supply store and tried an insane number of high-end hair products at a hefty discount. For years I had been struggling with split ends, but after discovering Biosilk Silk Therapy Leave in Treatment (clear serum) that problem virtually went away. I’ve tried every other leave-in under the sun and nothing comes close to this. Occasionally I get a free sample of something fancier but nope, back to Biosilk I go. The trick is to apply it right after shower, on wet hair, by flipping your hair over and applying a quarter-size amount only on the ends. When I started WENing on your recommendation I stopped using Biosilk and could tell the difference immediately. Now I WEN and then use Biosilk as leave in and my hair is happy again.

    My only other hair concern is that occasionally I start loosing a lot of it, I think from stress. When that happens I turn to the Murad Thinning Hair system (shampoo, conditioner, and leave in root serum). The hair loss stops INSTANTLY. Within the first 2 uses, I see about half as much hair on the comb when I shower and also start noticing new hair growth around my hairline where I can easily see it. Just shampoo and conditioner work too but the serum gives a notable extra health boost. I’ve tried other popular solutions like Nioxin but nothing compares to Murad for hair loss. The downside of using it constantly is that it can be a bit drying so if you have oily hair that’s great but if you have normal hair like me it’s dangerous. So I’ll use it a few times then go back to my regular routine (currently WEN though I’ve heard drugstore conditioners like your Suave recommendation work just as well) and then use Murad about once a month as maintenance. Also, when I use it I apply the conditioner only on the roots to stimulate scalp renewal but put something more moisturizing on the ends. It just makes my hair feel so much stronger and so fast.

    In terms of home remedies, if you can get fresh nettle, making a nettle rinse also helps strengthen and prevents hair loss. I’ve done the vinegar rinse too — it works because the acid neutralizes the alcaline residue from shampoo etc. leave the hair cleaner and softer. A slight vinegar rinse is useful any time you want to fully remove chemical cleanser residue, for example at the end of giving a bath to your pet.

    I’ve tried home hair masks too — various recipes with all the usual suspects like avocado, egg yolk, coconut olive or sweet almond oils, mayonnaise, honey, crushed aspirin, bananas… you name it I’ve tried it. I usually found that the hassle of putting it on and especially of getting it out of my hair is not worth it.

    Hope this helps!

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    May 13, 2013 at 1:38 pm

    I really want to grow my hair out as well! I always use styling products, so it is hard to keep it healthy and growing. It is fine and easy to break. It’s hard for me to only style once a week. Actually, I’ve never tried it! I would love some ideas/tutorials on how you keep your hair looking pretty without styling often.

    Especially on the weekends, styling comes out a lot because if I’m out, I want it to look good! Haha. Maybe some pretty updos? Not sure, what is your go to?

    Earlier this year, my hair was SO damaged and tangled – I literally thought there was no way out. Then my mom recommended an all-natural company called Melaleuca Affinia Ultra Moisturizing Shamp/Cond – it changed my hair DRASTICALLY the first time I used it and it is super cheap for a really large amount. I highly recommend it! I was using Clear Shamp/Cond before and will never go back – I think it is what destroyed my hair in the first place.

    – Christine

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    May 13, 2013 at 2:07 pm

    Hei. Gratuluje fascynującego bloga. Czytam codziennie i jestem całkowicie nim zafascynowana . Ja używam stary arabski kosmetyk na wypadanie i odżywienie włosów – olejku Amla . Smaruje nim włosy i skórę głowy raz w tygodniu na 1-2 godz.Zawijam włosy w folie , turban z ręcznika na głowę i czekam. Jak się śpieszę , to podgrzewam turban suszarką do włosów .Dla spektakularnego efektu można posmarować włosy na 6 godz. ( noc). Moje słabe z natury włosy przestają wypadać już po pierwszym użyciu i są jedwabiście miękkie. Jest tyko jeden minus, intensywny zapach arabskich kosmetyków , ale dla mnie jest to po prostu zapach mojego domowego SPA. Pozdrawiam serdecznie i tak trzymać .

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    May 13, 2013 at 2:28 pm

    Have you tried K Pak? I sometimes use it on clients with super damaged hair. Joico makes it, might check into that 🙂

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    May 13, 2013 at 2:39 pm

    Years ago when I used to highlight my hair, I used to do deep conditioning with this $10 product from sally’s. It’s the most moisturizing conditioner I’ve ever used!,default,pd.html?cgid=Hair02-02

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    May 13, 2013 at 2:46 pm

    Love these suggestions!! I want to do the vinegar rinse on my next shampoo! I’ve taken both Biotin and Bamboo Silica and I actually find that the Bamboo Silica works way better, and faster! Maybe it’ll work for you too!

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    May 13, 2013 at 2:48 pm

    I promise you Paul Mitchell Forever Blonde will change your life! Not just for blondes.The KerActive repair is the perfect amount of protein. I grew 2 inches because my hair stopped breaking off. As a stylist who is obsessed with having long hair, I highly recommend it!

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    May 13, 2013 at 3:13 pm

    There is actually a somewhat new system called Ovation Hair Cell Therapy. A few friends of mine are swearing by it — good swearing, not foul mouth angst swearing 😉 — and I have given into the madness. I have been on it for almost a month, on and off, but can see what all the hype is about. It’s yet another product/system to help strengthen and repair, and possibly even speed up growth!

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      Sylvia French
      May 14, 2013 at 7:15 am

      Hi Kortnee, go to the feed store and buy Eqyss premier shine shampoo and conditioning cream rinse. It’s the same company ( ovation ) but without the hefty price tag. We live in the country and use it on our horses as well as on us. Yes it sounds crazy but believe me, after you try it, you’ll believe me. You can also buy it on amazon or eBay . The company doesn’t want people to know that it’s the same product. There is also a product called megatek in this line. You massage it into your scalp and your hair will grow twice as thick and fast during continues use. Cancer patients use it after they lost all their hair. Read all the reviews it has on amazon. These products also have wonderful smells to it so no one will know your using animal shampoo. It’s safe on humans ( stated on the bottle )

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    May 13, 2013 at 4:12 pm

    matrix essentials sleek look shampoo and conditioner are amazing! –better yet, harmons sells their own knock-off of this duo and it works exactly the same. I am a natural blonde with fine hair, and I had discovered using a straightener to curl my hair (won’t curl with a curling iron), and absolutely ruined my hair. The ends were completely fried, including the tips of my bangs, imagine that! I tried every ‘repairing’ hair care line out there, when using matrix (its an orange bottle) my hair completely transformed back into the smooth and hydrated locks I once had. It is kind of expensive (recommend the harmons version), but it is seriously worth it!

    ps.: if your hair is super fine, rotate with this shampoo/conditioner and a cheaper version because your hair will feel a little limp if you overuse it.

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    May 13, 2013 at 4:18 pm

    Hi Cara! I too went blonde after having healthy dark hair and my hair texture changed for the worst. What I found to help (but never get it back to how healthy it was before) was going to my salon and getting the keratin hair treatment for $15 once a month. I called around to find the cheapest treatment, because other salons would charge up to $70! I don’t know if they’re using different products, but the $15 one made my hair feel AH-MAAAZING! I’ll keep checking your blog (as I always do!) to see if you’ve found anything that works for you! Good luck 🙂

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    May 13, 2013 at 4:21 pm

    Try the Alterna Repair Rx moisture bead masque and protein cream! I love it as much as Kerstase! I just took my hair from dark brown to ombré! Check my hair repair post at

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    May 13, 2013 at 4:25 pm

    I am going through the same journey as you to get my hair healthy again. I have naturally curly hair (not Super ringlet curly but definitely not just wavy). My hair is also naturally very dark and coarse. My hair is almost naturally black but I would dye it black every so often for years to have the shiny blue black glow. Like many, I got tired and wanted a change and got my hair ombred 3 different times to finally lighten it up the way I want. This was done over a longer period of time but my hair still suffered tremendously and needed lots of trims. i was almost always trying to get my hair super long but because my hair is usually damaged at the ends it always stops growing right above my chest and i’m due for a trim so it never gets the length i want. Ombre (ing) my hair really set back that process too. The last 6 months I’ve been really trying to get my hair back in shape and I think what I have been doing has really helped.
    1. Taking biotin every day! I’ve always heard to take it and have taken it every once in a while but you need to take it everyday for months and my hair has grown and has become thicker from it.
    2. Coconut oil (like you said) but I use it at night (2x a week) all over my head and sleep in it the day before I know I am going to wash it. I really think this has helped put some moisture back in my hair. I will forever continue with coconut oil.
    3. Only washing my hair twice a week max has really helped too. I used to wash my hair a lot more when it was dark and I was styling all the time. Now i only put heat on it twice a week max after I wash. However, I am going to stop blow drying for a while and see if i can do it. I just hate the texture of my natural hair.
    4. On the days I wash I use Aveeno Sulfate Free Shampoo and i only put it on my head and scalp, not the ends or midshaft. Then I use a deep conditioner mask from the ENJOY line. I do love both of these products.
    5. I have Wen my mom bought me but when I use it my hair always seemed greasy and because I am waiting so long in between washes, i’m not sure if Wen is for me. I will say I’m not sure i have ever really gave it a honest try. I have to try using more of it and rinsing longer but I’m still not sure it will last me 4 days.
    5. I use its a ten leave in spray before blow drying. After and During, I use morrocan oil on the ends of my hair.
    This has all really helped me get my fried bleached hair soft again, my hair has grown the most it has in years and I continue to do this so my hair will grow to the length i finally want. Hope this helps some of you!

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    May 13, 2013 at 5:24 pm

    Hi Cara!

    Have you tried the Arbonne shampoo and conditioner? I have tried so many different brands and this one was amazing! My hair feels so soft and I don’t have to wash it as often. It’s also really helped my color. Usually I have to use a purple shampoo once a week or my highlights will get brassy but people are actually asking if I have had my highlights touched up because they are so golden (for the record, I haven’t had them done or used the purple shampoo in about 6 weeks).

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    May 13, 2013 at 5:33 pm

    Hey! I totally know how you feel about your hair! I’m so fickle about my hair color that I’m constantly changing it and the last 4-5 inches are damaged and frayed….and I’m a hairstylist! Haha. I’ve been trying to grow my hair out for a couple years now and I’ve just about tried everything (aside from trimming it) to get and keep it healthy.
    As I’m sure you know, if your damaged hair has split ends there’s no way to fix it but cut them off. However, if it’s just dried out and coarse feeling, biotin, as you mentioned, definitely helps. Also, I use and sell Kevin.Murphy products. The products are made with pure essential oils, plant extracts, and natural antioxidants. They’re paraben and sulphate free too! The product line is a little pricey but TOTALLY worth it. There’s a leave-in conditioner called Staying.Alive and a treatment mask called Born.Again.Masque among other awesome products that really work wonders! Check out their website…

    Hope that helps!


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    Bridget Schlicher
    May 13, 2013 at 6:01 pm

    I’m such a HUGE fan of Pureology!!!– so surprised u haven’t mentioned it more!!!! The ‘Essential Repair’ leav in is an absolute must for me!!!!– also Surface has a product called Bassu Shine Spray that I use wer and dry!!!– both product have helpe my damaged hair soo much!!! Also, Pureology’s Nano Shampoo and Conditioner is like liquid gold in a bottle!!!!— you HAFTA try, Cara!!!!— promise me you will!!!!–lol!!!

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    Kelsey M.
    May 13, 2013 at 6:07 pm

    Pureology Bleach Blonde shampoo is pretty good. I’ve been red, dark brown, light brown, and bleach blonde. My stylist, hair guru told me to use Bumble and Bumble Mending Mask and I swear to God, of all the products I’ve used, this is by far my favorite. I also use B&B styling spray as a heat protectant. I’ve noticed with my blonde hair it looks dull after a while so I tried Clairol Clear glaze and it’s wonderful! The conditioner with it makes your hair so soft and silky.

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    Liz Rakich
    May 13, 2013 at 6:30 pm

    I’m a hairdresser. I love your blog. I’ve been silently stalking on here for months. Been voting, too! Ok, so I have the worlds worst hair. Fine, limp and so so easily damaged. And because I’m a hairdresser, I can’t leave the color alone for more than a month. More damage. The best shampoo I’ve found for damage repair is Redken Extreme. The Extreme conditioner is great too, but my hair is so trashed I pretty much use a deep conditioner every time I wash it. Hands down, the best deep conditioner I’ve used (among many, trust) is the Joico Kpak Revitaluxe treatment. My apologies if you’ve already tried it but it is the only reason I have hair on my head. As far as leave in condition/treatments go, Redken Anti Snap really does beef up your hair and strengthen it super well, however, it doesn’t leave it super silky. The best product I’ve found for making your hair look and feel like its healthy (lies!) is Bedhead After Party. Don’t put it near your scalp and don’t over do it. A little bit goes a long way. I’ve convinced all my clients, friends and family to fall in love. Anyway, disregard any redundant advice, love your blog, keep it up!

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    May 13, 2013 at 6:47 pm

    I like highlights and blonde color, which usually equals straw texture. So to get my hair back to soft and healthy I wash it with Redken All Soft both conditioner and shampoo. Then I rub the tiniest amount of Argan oil on wet hair (because a little goes a LONG way), then blow dry with a round brush with soft bristles. The Argan oil is good on it’s own, but the best way to get healthy hair after blonde or bleaching is by treating the blow drier as your ally – not your enemy. Use the heat from the blow drier and the Argan oil to give yourself a hot oil treatment. Use the round brush with soft bristles to dry your hair and prevent split ends. In my experience, that totally works.

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    May 13, 2013 at 7:31 pm

    Been there! My lady told me to use Redken antisnap leave in conditioner. It’s about $15 and it saved my hair! I also sucked it up and bought the morrocan oil hydrating repair mask. I alternated using the two and they saved me from cutting it all off.

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    May 13, 2013 at 7:45 pm

    Hey Cara, love your blog!
    I myself am dealing with some seriously damaged ends, and my best words of advice are leave it alone as much as you can – don’t brush when its wet, don’t blow dry or curl or iron as much as possible, get in touch with the fun and easy updo’s, luckily the top-bun look seems to work well on everybody, (and a helpful tip- put your hair in a top knot and tease the hair about a quarter of an inch in individual pieces, then wrap your hair around itself to form a top bun. its good for girls like us with really thin hair and makes it look like there is way more hair to fill the bun)
    however some fun things to try are:
    coconut oil, egg yolk, olive oil and honey, avocado, and almond oil masks
    of course you are familiar with coconut oil as i saw in your post
    another couple cheap products i’ve found to be useful are the pantene 2 minute moisture masks and really any moisture type masks from Ion that you can find at sally’s- these are an absolute life saver
    i just put them on my ends after i shampoo and leave it in while i shower, but when i have nothing to do with my day i leave it in for a few hours to really let it do it’s miracles
    a couple of good leave in things i’ve liked to use after showering are the exotic nectar – argan oil smooth & shine cream from Live Clean, the Pro-Mend splint end binding overnight cream from Nexxus, and i really did love my leave in stuff from Wen which i’m sure you’re also familiar with

    good luck and post any other good ideas you find!

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    May 13, 2013 at 8:06 pm

    For years I had my head full of fine, dark brown (almost black) hair bleached a tocco beige shade, beautiful sunny blonde, 90+ foils, and as a firm believer that a woman’s hair is her crowning glory, I took scrupulous care of it lest I lose my hair! Best conditioning I came up with was this: Nexxus KeraPhix mixed with Neutrogena Conditioning Cream and a few squirts of Neutrogena Body Oil or store brand equivalent, scented or not, it’s up to you (it is a light sesame oil)…used liberally because my hair would drink up any conditioner you put in it. But it stayed healthy and bouncy and shiny! Also in the summer, whenever I went swimming, I would rinse my hair and leave sesame oil in it until I got home and then would wash it. Now that I have long since returned to my natural dark color, I still use that mixture at times for a nice body and shine boost – just less often, but always right after coloring (now covering greys).

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    May 13, 2013 at 8:25 pm

    I love natural products. The Ulta- Moist line of Giovanni has saved my fried, damaged, bleached, dyed, coarse hair. I especially love the serum found here… The whole line smells wonderful and is A-mazing! Also, I started using a new hair straightener that has actually improved the texture of my hair and has made it soft and SO shiney! It’s pricey, but so worth it… and I hate to spend my hard earned money. It has been worth every penny… -I bought the Classic Blue Diamond

    I have always struggled with my hair, now it’s soft, straight and shiney!

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    May 13, 2013 at 8:45 pm

    so then, for the vinegar rinse, would i just put red coloring in it for my red dye?? does it really help? i’m open to anything that helps keep my color, because i can only stand going 2 to maybe 3 days without washing to keep it from fading!

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    May 13, 2013 at 9:38 pm

    i’ve done years of coloring, hi lighting, brazilian blowout, japanese straightener, etc. and the first couple of things that helped nurse my hair back to health was to switch to natural products, like an aveda deep conditioner, and leave those on overnight; or a thick rich leave in conditioner that was all natural, plus, like you said, lay off the heat. when that finally got all the damage out, i had problems growing my hair. the first thing that showed growth benefits was taking pre natal vitamins, that helped A LOT. so much so that it grew fast and i killed it again by using a flat iron too much! LOL and then i decided to try OVATION CELL THERAPY after trying so many different failed products and hearing about it everyday on the radio and that stuff is magic in a bottle! not only did it nurse my hair back to health but it got it to grow QUICK! it stopped working after about three months, my hair seems to do that, it stops benefitting every season =( so at that point, i usually switch back to aveda or i will be adventurous and search for another natural alternative (latest test was EO products based out of california – not too bad and all their products smell great!). everyone i know that’s tried ovation also loved it but did find it pricey for regular purchasing. but if you need to nurse it back to life, i vote for ovation!

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    May 13, 2013 at 10:04 pm

    Cara, I love your posts! I’m slightly obsessed (I kinda rubbed off on my cousin too!). I just went from black to blonde too and I’m a hairstylist..eek right? I swear by coconut oil treatments overnight on dry hair. I’m pretty sure it kept my hair from falling out! I also do moroccan oil on my ends before I dry it. I love Pureology’s smoothing conditioner on my non-deep conditioning days. It’s a miracle in a bottle I tell ya! I’m guilty of not just going to a level 6 or 7, I went full on level 12 bleach blonde…oops. I am a dry shampoo addict and a serum lover. I am constantly finding new ways to make my hair pretty and not ratty at the ends… I’m totally trying the vinegar tomorrow. Thanks for your tips and tricks and fun, sweet spirit! And congrats on the Allure Challenge! We are die hard voters over here! 🙂

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    kristen @ glambunctious
    May 13, 2013 at 11:03 pm

    Your timing couldn’t be better, Cara! I haven’t ever dyed my hair with permanent color, but last year I used a semi-permanent shade of red that was supposed to wash out in 8 shampoos. Well, the thing is, it’s still in there! Not as noticeable, but still there. My mom recently noticed the red in my hair when we were outside and my hair was down. I’m going to try using a purple toner shampoo and see if it helps on my dark brown hair (with red accents)! Thank you for this post!

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    May 13, 2013 at 11:37 pm

    Have you visited The Long Hair Community site? I have learned a lot about hair care from them over the years. As a natural brunette who has gone red, I have to accept my hair will only get to about bra length before it breaks. I wash it once a week in cold water. Embrace wet set styling. I use heat styling one to two times a month and deep conditioner every time i wash. When you wash, apply conditioner from ears down first, then apply shampoodle to scalp only. When I first started this method, it took my scalp about a month to adjust. Ten years later, you’d NEVER know I only wash once a week. Good luck, sweetie! It can be done. Also, if you’re gonna do extentions, do clip-ins. Anything else is BAD for the scalp and health of your hair.

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    Amanda Ewell Gallacher
    May 13, 2013 at 11:58 pm

    i love love love coconut oil! i use it all over my hair, keeping about 2 inches away from my roots (cause they get a but oily) and just saturating it. i put a cap on wait however long i feel my hair needs, usually 30 mins without a blow dryer. then i hop in the shower and shampoo and condition like normal. AMAZING! i have bleach blond hair that is so so so thick.

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    May 14, 2013 at 1:15 am

    I am a Spa Director for a very high end Spa and I have the pleasure of working with some amazing cosmetologists. With an ever changing industry, its nice to be surrounded daily by professionals in the business. I have VERY long thick hair and because this industry has been my life for so many years.. I have been coloring my hair for as long as I can remember. I am a natural blonde but am currently coloring it a soft black. However, I am positive it will change (as it always does). Here are some professional tips for keeping your hair healthy, shiny and LONG.

    1. Please remember that your hair grows from your scalp and not your ends. So often, women think their hair is not growing because they have split ends. This makes NO SENSE.. what do we do? We go to our hair stylist and let them chop off all of hair because hair stylists are “Scissor Happy” – Yep, I said it.. Instead, try getting very small trims every 90 days at the most while continuing to practice the tips below. (Secret, I have not had a hair cut in a year and a half) Swear!

    2. DO NOT WASH YOUR HAIR EVERY DAY – This is very important.. You are literally stripping away all of the natural oils in your hair. For those of you that have oily hair and cant handle this, I suggest a messy bun on day 2, pony on day 3, and then try a dry shampoo on day 4. Try this and within 2 months you will have “trained” your hair (sort of speak) I promise it will not be as greasy. I honestly wash my hair every 4 days – and I try and go to day 5.

    3. Use a color safe shampoo or organic – Honestly though, shampoo to me is a bit of a gimmick.. any will work, the key is to use only a small amount and ONLY use it on your roots.

    4. I use this product (see the link) as a conditioner every time I wash my hair. I have tried some top of the line products, I have received every sample you can think of and this one is by FAR the best. Its inexpensive and I swear as soon as you rinse it out you will feel a difference in the shower. Yes I know, its suppose to be used as a “treatment” but like I said I use it as a conditioner and its amazing. The top stylist at my spa who travels between 2 different resorts and who has some very well known clients uses this product on herself and shared the secret – I promise you wont regret it!,default,pd.html?cm_vc=SEARCH

    5. Once you are finished shampooing/conditioning – Wrap a towel around your head and squeeze (but not hard) Do not brush or comb. Let air dry

    6. Once fully dry take a big wide tooth comb and brush. If you have thick hair, curls or if this is impossible because it will get tangled. Lightly (very lightly) coat the comb in olive oil then brush

    Lastly, I drink A LOT of water which helps, taking Omega 3 vitamins will assist, prenatal vitamins. I also do a “Mayo Wrap” (again, same stylist told me about) usually every 2 months or right around the time I am getting ready to get my roots touched up. I use Organic pure mayo and slather it all over my head.. I then wrap a towel around my head and usually leave it for about 2 hours (because I get lazy or busy and procrastinate rinsing it out) I do this a day or two before I get my root touch up and it really helps my hair look amazing after my color.

    I hope this helps, this is a really great blog. It’s really refreshing to see you provide this much information to people free of charge. So often, women & men pay a lot of money for some of the information you give so freely here. I cant believe I just found your blog tonight via Pinterest… I am now a follower 🙂


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    May 14, 2013 at 3:27 am

    I’ve had super damaged by surfing in the sun and salty water together with the hair dyes hair. I couldn’t comb them, the scalp was a disaster and the ends were super dry.
    So I found these Giovanni products…which contain no SLS and other nasty stuff. I have to say that’s the best I’ve tried so far, and you CAN’T beat the price. Their Nutrafix hair reconstructor will probably be good for super damaged hair. I’d recommend the line Smooth as Silk, it is all fantastic and I won’t just use this word whenever!!! This stuff contains proteins which fill your hair. Also I’ve tried Mill’s Creek Keratin Conditioner which is super cheap, the bottle is super big and it is SUPER good. My hair has never been in a better condition since I’ve started coloring 12 years ago when I was 14 lol.

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    May 14, 2013 at 6:29 am

    Folic acid!!! It’s good for your nails too! 🙂

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    May 14, 2013 at 7:31 am

    Anyone having trouble voting today?

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    Sylvia French
    May 14, 2013 at 7:41 am

    Hello Cara. Thank you so much for making our life’s so much more fun. I read your blog, I watch your videos and you are the first person who made me wanting to change my daily routine of just putting a little rice powder on my face, mascara, lipgloss and done…. Now I own concealer, bb cream, whatts up ( my favorite!!!!) make up brushes, you name it. And I love my new you!!! But now to your post. I’m in my 23. Year of being a stylist, started when I was 16 over in Berlin ,Germany and moved to Cali 9 years ago. I worked in a high end salon in Berlin and I’m a great length hair extension master. Now to the best products out there…. Hands down kerastase!!!! That’s all there’s to it. Ever since I moved here and saw the hefty price tag the products have here in USA , I tried other products, which have all been mentioned here. None of them come close…. Dumb blonde bead head: too much build up! Kpak same thing. And so on…so here are a few products who come close to kerastase: matrix hydrating balm, not the conditioning balm ( very important ) also if you want to save on kerastase go to, order the salon size shampoo and mask and sign up for their instant 15-20% off coupon. You save a ton doing that even tho you have to drop a hefty $120 at once, those salon bottles will last you a year at least. And last : eqyss equine premier shampoo and cream rinse conditioner. Yes you all can laugh your heads off trying horse shampoo, but it works. Plus if some of you wanna do the research, it’s the same company who makes ovation cell therapy. You all heard of it and you know it has a hefty price tag. So for those of you who want to believe me, order it on amazon or go to your local feed store and ask for’ll only cost you a third of the price than ovation products. It’s safe on humans. Plus some of you use conditioner right after shampooing their hair. It is very important that you towel dry your hair between washing and conditioning. This way the excess water won’t dilute your products so they have more power to work.

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    Wendy Kelly
    May 14, 2013 at 8:52 am

    Hi Cara, so glad I came across your blog. I’ve been a dedicated reader for a couple of weeks now. Just wanted to say I enjoy reading your posts! I bought the Tresemme Heat Protection spray you recommended recently, and I gotta say I love it!!!

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    May 14, 2013 at 9:12 am

    I love your great ideas! I “hacked” for the first time today and have received sooo many compliments! I also let my hair air dry (trying to grow it out and prevent damage) and thought it looked terrible, but instead, I keep getting compliments on it too! A big thank you!

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    May 14, 2013 at 9:23 am

    Hi Cara! I was so excited yesterday when I saw your post about this but then I realized my comment never saved on your board so I’ll try again! I have naturally curly/wavy hair but not the kind that you can just let hair dry and it magically looks amazing and I have been wanting that sexy, shiny hair for what feels like forever! I have been trying to do little things that you recommend along with some of my own to get my hair to grow out and be shiny-Im trying hard to cut back on hairspray and stop using the blow dryer even if it is only for 5 minutes, which is not an easy task and your tips on trimming have been super helpful as well. You just did a post on coconut oil and putting it in the ends of your hair but I also use the coconut oil as a mask on my hair once a week. Run it through the bottom half of your hair until it’s covered (make sure you melt it first-it’s so much easier!) and just a little through the top half because you don’t want those roots looking greasy. Put it in a bun and let it sit as least 30 minutes then shower. It really does make my hair shinier and coconut oil is so good for you inside and out that I’m sure it’s making it stronger as well. I tried it with 1/2 an avocado and it didn’t feel like it worked as well, and it made more of a mess! I’ve been doing the paleo lifestyle for a few months now and I think the natural stuff it what works best, not only when it comes to food, but beauty products as well. Don’t get me wrong I still have all my makeup and watch your videos religiously, but when it comes to growing my hair out and trying to get it shiny I’m trying all the natural products I can (and trying to make a few concoctions myself) .

    I also really like the rosemary mask from Heather (comment above) I’m going to try that one. Oh and as far as veggies-kale is a superfood so I bet that will help just that much more. 🙂

    Thanks for your fabulous blog it really is so fun to read everyday AND you have the best tips! Keeping my fingers crossed and voting everyday to you win the Allure contest! xo

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    May 14, 2013 at 10:20 am

    Aphogee two step treatment from Sally’s has seriously saved my hair from bleach damage! Beware the process is intense, and be sure to follow up with a deep conditioner. Works wonders!!

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    May 14, 2013 at 10:35 am

    I trim my hair myself fairly regularly (via your advice here, I shampoo seldomly and I also use coconut oil on dry hair. I rub it throughout at the end of the day, focusing on the ends, then pull into a bun and sleep with it in. I make sure to have a towel on my pillow so my case doesn’t get oily.

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    May 14, 2013 at 10:38 am

    I used Avedas Damage Remedy when I went back from brown to blonde and my hair was noodley. It was amazing!!! Try it and I know you will love it!

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    May 14, 2013 at 1:02 pm

    You said in a previous post that you can’t believe how much the readers appreciate you. I just wanted to make a point to say that you have changed my outlook on hair and makeup! Not only have I tried almost everything that you post, but it has built my confidence significantly! And by that, I mean through the things that you’ve taught me, I am able to go about my day, whether I go anywhere or do anything, feeling beautiful. You have truly blessed me and I think you’re just awesome!

    On another note, I LOVE the Healthy Sexy Hair products for my hair. I have thin, fine hair and I have to keep it cut in layers to create the body that I want. The Healthy Sexy Hair products, more specifically the Leave-In Conditioner and Argan Oil, are an awesome addition to my everyday routine, keeping my hair SO SOFT all day and they don’t weigh my hair down even a little bit! I always add the leave-in con. right after the shower, before any other products and the argan oil while my hair’s still wet, focusing at the ends. I even add the oil at night before bed, especially if I curled my hair that day.

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    May 14, 2013 at 2:14 pm

    Ok this might be silly. I know we are talking about products. But what about hairbrushes? Does it matter what kind of hair brush you use?

    Another thing. I have very oily roots and very dry everywhere else. My hormones are still crazy 3 years after having my son so Im having to relearn everything about my hair and skin again. If I use conditioner my hair gets stringy, but if I don’t my ends get dry and frizzy. I need some balance and I miss my “normal” hair anyone have any tips?

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    May 14, 2013 at 2:20 pm

    Hello, long time lurker, first time poster (although I am voting for you on allure 🙂 ). Ok, so I had to post because this is exactly what I did – bought a bottle of Wen, now am using the suave coconut and the vo5 kiwi (based on Internet searches, these are the best for co-washing, although I like the suave better). This was because of price. I bought the huge $60 wen bottle from qvc, mint almond. By the third month, I was in love. But it took all three months before I was ready to admit total wen transformation. But could I justify another $60? I would stalk qvc, waiting for a deal, even watched when Chaz (what is up with his hair btw???) was on qvc. I couldn’t pull the trigger. $60 isn’t that much and yet IT TOTALLY IS. Suave and vo5 are $1/bottle at the dollar store.
    I live in the high desert, wash my hair twice or three times a week and use dry shampoo regularly. I bought suave and vo5 to see if it was a worthy swap. It’s now been about two months in, and I’m pretty happy with the results. I use an obnoxious amount (which was painful to do with wen) and scrub thoroughly. When I rinse, I comb throughy hair and then don’t touch it until it’s dry. My hair is now longer than it has been, ever, at just past my collar bone.
    But I don’t know if this is just that weird psych thing where a product appears better because you’ve spent more money on it, but this co wash bit doesn’t compare to Wen. To be fair, I didn’t hit my stride with Wen until month three and it’s only been two months with suave, and I was worried that my hair would get used to wen and The amazing results I was experiencing (beautiful shiny hair, lovely ends, natural gentle waves, no heat required) were temporary. ON THE OTHER HAND if $60 is going in my shopping basket guess what? It’s going on sunless tanning stuff and puzzles forgot kids.
    Good luck with allure, but I think you have it in the bag 😉 I checked out the competition; they are def cute girls with a lot of talent, but I like yours the best!

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    May 14, 2013 at 4:03 pm

    This could be a long post, but bear with me…
    Last year, I started a new birth control. It took me until a couple of months ago to realize that it was to blame for the hair loss I’ve been experiencing for the last year. It also made my skin break out horribly; I even had pimples on my scalp, plus dandruff. It was so bad, my head itched constantly and then I had those painful zits all over. Yuck. I did some research and found a Paul Mitchell scalp treatment. It was about $15 at Ulta. It has completely fixed my scalp issues. I no longer have dandruff, itchiness or break outs whatsoever, and I haven’t even finished the first bottle! It was seriously a miracle treatment. I saw major results after the second or third use.
    As for my hair loss, I’ve tried biotin, other vitamins, and everything else short of spending $50 on a bottle of Nioxin shampoo (which I know from experience, works well for me, but money has been tight). I think the only thing that will truly make my hair grow back is changing birth control again. Big bummer.
    I also bleached my very dark brown hair about four years ago. I’m still seeing some of the damage, although it has gotten better. I think the biggest difference I’ve seen with all the products I’ve used is Argan or Bamboo oil on my hair (paying special attention to the ends) before blow-drying. It helps it look less fried and smooths it all out and makes it super soft. I don’t go a day without it anymore!
    I hope this helps anyone who may have had similar experiences. I know a lot of these tips have helped me too. 🙂

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    May 14, 2013 at 4:12 pm

    I have used Kerastase hair mask and I really like it, but I also adore the Pureology Precious Oil softening hair mask. I use that once or twice a week (and give my ends some extra loving) and my hair is super soft and shiny for several days after. I also use the Precious Oil on my hair before any heat treatments (like curling it) and it seems to help protect my hair and keep it hydrated.

    Do you ever book jobs? We are wanting to hire someone for a MUA for the day, and your work is amazing. Thanks!

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    May 14, 2013 at 4:58 pm

    Hi! First time to your blog. Let me tell you, you f-ing rock! Ok, I might have spent 2 hours perfecting my contour while my almost 4 year old begged for me to do her makeup. Question , what do you think about inexpensive pharmacy bought makeup? Is it all about the brush you use?

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    May 14, 2013 at 6:14 pm

    I have recently gotten hooked on Loreal’s sulfate free leave in conditioner in a gold bottle! They also make a cleansing conditioner like WEN! I LOVE them both. The leave in conditioner is about $8 a bottle and I use it after I wash my hair. It smells so good and makes my hair so soft! My shampoo and conditioner is from Aveda. I can’t get enough of their products. I’m lucky to have a cosmetologist friend who gets it very cheap for me : ) Otherwise I don’t think I could stomach the $30/bottle price tag!

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    May 14, 2013 at 9:02 pm

    Christine is SPOT ON with her advice per the Sally Beauty One n’ Only argan treatment. That stuff is amazing!

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    May 14, 2013 at 11:46 pm

    My natural hair is a golden blonde. When I was seventeen I had this brilliant idea to due it black (bad idea, my roots looked gray!) so I bleached it back to my normal color as much as possible. I’m growing out my hair and it still is damaged but I’ve learned a lot along the way.
    My hairdresser said that hard water is the worst on damaged hair because the iron sink right into the hair cuticle die to the shield being bleached off. Sally’s sells a hair mask that can get all of the hard water and product buildup off. Another thing is to slather coconut oil all over your hair once a week as a treatment followed with a shower to wash it out. Organixs, sold at Walmart, Target, Walgreens, etc is the best thing I’ve found so far. Most of the ingredients are natural which really helps my hair. I’ve noticed a huge improvement with the shampoo and conditioner alone and in conjunction with the sprays, oils, and serums, my hair has become gorgeously soft. Also, getting a natural boar brush can make a big improvement too. Good luck! (:

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    Jessica Helland
    May 15, 2013 at 7:59 am

    I have coarse, dry hair naturally and since I live in Utah I have to be very careful not to dry it out. My solution has been the Loreal sulfate free shampoos and conditioners. I only wash my hair twice a week and when I do I use their shampoo, rinse it out, and then use a conditioner but don’t rinse it out. That may not work for people without my crazy coarse hair, but you should definitely give Loreal’s sulfate free product line a try!

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    May 15, 2013 at 7:59 am

    Hi Cara! 🙂
    I have long hair that I have dyed way to many times, so it’s pretty damaged. One thing that i have found is that you can make an awesome hair mask with coconut oil. Mix one part coconut oil and one part honey, leave it in for an hour, then when you wash your hair you will notice that it’s much softer! Good luck!,

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    Mrs. Matthews
    May 15, 2013 at 8:10 am

    I stumbled across blog, and I’m in love! I’ve been lurking for days and I’ve gotten so many great tips. Thank you!

    I have very fine hair, and a ton of it.. I need to process order to give it texture – damage city. One of the best things I’ve done for my hair is not washing it daily. I was terrified at first because my hair/scalp are an oil slick. I’ve tried several dry shampoos and the one by Suave is by far the best I’ve tried..and the cheapest. I now go about 4-5 days without washing and touching up with dry shampoo daily.
    The second best thing – never using a product that doesn’t come from a salon. It’s true, you get what you pay for! Many of the products you buy at a drugstore/Walmart/Target, whatever your habit of choice is, actually contain FLOOR WAX. -gasp- I’m completely serious, industrial floor wax. “Smoothing” products that make your hair better with each use are actually the worst… Pantene Pro V for example, it’s the build up of wax that “smooths” your hair. Not vitamins like they claim. Because my hair is fine and processed it gets so frizzy. The best thing I’ve used lately is Matrix Biolage Hydratherapie Hydrating Shampoo and Conditioning Balm (for dry, stressed hair). I was a blow out junkie, so I’ve been cutting back on that too, but my hair gets so frizzy from air drying. Using this Biolage shampoo and conditioner without a blow out makes my hair silky and smooth…no frizz! I also use Paul Mitchell Super Skinny Serum in my damp hair to smooth it (regardless of a blow out or not) – it’s conditioning and cuts drying time too. Then follow with a flat iron as needed.
    I’ve also tried Joico Kpak, and it’s lovely too. On the odd occasion that I do wash my hair (-chuckles-), I condition and put my hair in a clip and go about the rest of my shower routine. I had to stop doing that do often because my hair was so soft and healthy that it wouldn’t do anything, if you can believe it.
    Anyway, hope some of this helped someone, and I apologize for any redundant info!

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    May 15, 2013 at 8:41 am

    I must confess I am not really “into” beauty blogs, but yours SUCKED ME IN. (And all your wonderful link ups has provided Amazon with a whole lotto my money. lol.) I think it wasn’t just your talent and knowledge, but down to earth nature, and kind heart which comes through in your blog.

    Anyway, Hair… I began following your air dry advice although I was scared, because my hair is an unflattering kind of wavy and also damaged. But I have to say I am impressed by the improvements!
    Also, when I know I am due for a shampoo, I will coconut oil my head the night before so it’s on all night and then wash it out in the shower in the morning. I’ve done that for a while and it was like my hair was being “healed”. Big difference. (But then my stylist said oils tend to strip color so I backed off, but I’m back on now)

    PS – I also tried HACing, and of course bought the products you mentioned. 😉 I tagged you in instagram, per request on your blog…. but my toddler got into the Bahama Mama while I was gone and my husband sent me pictures…. I am tempted to instagram her “HAC” attempt too. lol. She didn’t get the “glamorous” look…. ended up with more of a “Poop Smeared” look. Not a good look for her. 😉

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    Lisa F
    May 15, 2013 at 11:22 am

    I am a waaay over processed blonde and have taken my hair from drab fried to movie star locks, no joke! I finally found the remedy 🙂 My stylist and I were chatting on the days (back when) that we bleached and blew dry, teased curled and permed, used Pantene at best and had no damage to our hair. What was the difference??? Now with heat protectors, high end conditioners, oils and $125 blow drying I’m fried…..
    1. I embraced the scrunchi again. Yep, a loose soft fabric. I also brought back the claw clip. Don’t get me wrong, I either pony with a little scrunchi or pin into a loose bun. I hide it, it is after all a scrunchi.
    2. I stopped with the layers of product. I let hair be hair. I rinse with a co-wash of any sorts followed by a vinegar rinse. LOVE that. My hair is clean healthy and growing like crazy. I apply whatever conditioner I have these days, usually either Loreal for damaged or Pureology Perfect 4 Platinum. (love that but so0 pricey) I really don’t think these make the difference tho, most of it rinses off. I think the co-wash does it.
    I spray with a candy apple scented detangler by Suave or some cheapie, air dry 90% then finish with a round brush and Loreal hair oil.
    3. I think my night makes my hair alive. I coat it in coconut oil, shea oil or almond oil do a loose braid and crash. This has been HUGE in the transformation.
    4. I upped my Greens like crazy!! I use the Vega energy shake and blend fresh spinach in as well, twice day. My hair is now growing about 2 inches a month. Insane.

    I really think reflecting on the 90’s helped my hair, I kept it simple again. I do apply the Loreal dry oil during the day randomly to my ends and do an avocado mask, or whatever hair mask I find at TJ Maxx twice weekly just to add moisture. I am diligent with my diet but always have been.
    When I tell you my hair was a disaster zone it is no lie, Now it is mid back thick and gorgeous, I hope this helps one of you out there!
    Cara – DIG your blog, love it 🙂

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    May 15, 2013 at 2:29 pm

    Hey Cara! Love your blog!
    After seeing this post, I immediately started researching co-washing (washing with conditioner). This whole washing with just Suave intrigued me! I bought Suave’s coconut conditioner and co-washed my hair yesterday. I highlight my hair and heat style my hair at least 3 times a week. I have been really cutting back on blow drying, but my hair still felt fried.
    Anyway – so I co-wash yesterday and after getting out of the shower, I put a little argan oil in my hair. I let my hair dry to 90% and then finished it with a blow dryer. I sprayed heat protectant on and then flat ironed my hair, only going over my hair once at a lower heat setting than usual. I usually go over it twice. Honestly, I wasn’t sure what to think yesterday. But today is where I am seeing the huge difference! It’s rainy here in North Texas and usually, my hair would be a frizzy mess. However, it’s not! It’s smooth (smoother than yesterday) and soft. The only product I used today was a tiny bit of coconut oil to tame a few flyaways. I am going to keep using it and see how I like it. I may eventually try L’Oreal’s cleansing conditioner or Hair One by Sally Beauty. Wen is not in my budget. =(

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      May 15, 2013 at 8:56 pm

      Hair One Coconut co wash at Sally’s is awesome!!

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    May 16, 2013 at 3:09 pm

    I would recommend taking prenatal vitamins they really help your hair grow. I also really like moroccan oil, I bleach my hair pretty light and this gives it shine and makes it feel a lot softer . The miriclue 10 products are amazing I wouldn’t have any hair left with out them. Also Using an egg mixture once a month also puts back much needed protein into damaged hair!

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    Amanda H. (@UnlikelyOrganic)
    May 16, 2013 at 7:44 pm

    I have been trying the Suave Conditioner co-wash with vinegar rinse and it works. I recently went from black to beige blonde, and my hair is dead. This will be my savior, as Wen is out of my price range right now.

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    May 17, 2013 at 3:50 am

    Hello Cara, I just found your blog today on Pinterest. It is now 5 am and I have not stopped reading in like 5 hrs. I have to say while I am NOT a girly girl. ( i do not own more than 3 pieces of make up, I don’t own a curling iron, and I haven’t used a hair dryer in at least a couple years ) I really have enjoyed your blog! The videos that I have cruised thru are informative and useful and have taught me a lot even if I don’t use it every day. Makes it more dramatic when I do get all “Dolled Up”! Anyway Thank You, I will be sharing this site with lots of others. As to hair. I just want to start by saying I like my hair except for the grey! Haven’t really ever had a problem with it. I have to color it every 6 weeks or so because I started going very grey around 22, and now by 37 I am almost completely there. So my husband says, he is the one that colors my hair, (he’s gotten pretty good at it! Does highlights and everything. Don’t tell him I said so though) Anyway I digress.. I live in Wisconsin, the weather here is interesting in any season to say the least and if you don’t like it, give it two hours, it will probably change. So hair here is constantly subjected to cold, dry, hot , humid and all around crazy conditions, Usually on the same day, so here are the tips I use… I liked the girl who brought back the 90’s, I never really left. I use a scrunchie daily, I stopped washing my hair more than once a week before it was cool to do so. I get a GOOD cut maybe three times a year. I do not use product, not that I am opposed just lazy, I don’t blow dry ever, I brush it rarely, maybe once a day but with a good brush, every once in a while when one of my girls feels like being girly we do a hair mask of some sort. Usually from a natural recipe from my WHO KNEW books. very helpful those books. I use Suave Keratin shampoo and conditioner, it works better than most brands I have tried even the salon ones, I have been reading a lot of replies and while a number of people mentioned Suave and Kerastase no one mentioned Suave has one too. Best of both worlds I say! I usually throw some oil of some type( coconut,olive, Argn) in my hair before I wash it and let it still a while before I wash it. I air dry it over the back of the couch so it doesn’t dry to flat and comb it out with my fingers. I have found the best maintenance for hair is little to none. I know that most of you reading this probably does more than go to the Walmart or the grocery store every other day and probably has to fix your hair every day, but let me tell you LESS is MORE! Your hair will thank you for it! My hair gets colored every 6 weeks to 2 months but my stylist will swear there is no noticeable damage, very little split ends, it is super soft, shiny, bouncy, and goes into a nice wavy style with no product at all. (I personally give a lot of credit to the cut!) And try out the WHO NU books. A lot of recipes and helpful tips on hair and beauty! Any that’s my two cents, Glad to have found you.

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    Meggie Kincaid
    May 18, 2013 at 5:25 am

    Hi! I always get complimented on how soft my hair is, so I thought I’d let you know what I do (though my family thinks I’m crazy and gross.) At least twice a week, I pour abot a 1/4 cup of cooking oil (canola, vegetable, olive, whatever we have) into a container, microwave it for 30-45 seconds, flip my head/hair upside down, dip my finger tips into the container (it’s not too hot – don’t worry) and apply the oil all over my scalp. Then, with the remaining oil, i apply it all over to the rest of my hair. I recommend leaving it for at least thirty minute, but I usually put it up in a bun, leave it over night, and wash it before I leave in the morning. Doing this makes your hair super soft and shiny. You do have to be careful what oil you use though. I have used canola, coconut, and vegetable oil. I have noticed vegetable oil is a lot thicker/stickier and therefore harder to get out. Of course you can buy the more expensive olive oil or coconut or you could go for organic, but hey – I’m cheap. ;D So I go for the humungo, walmart brand of canola or something that’s only $2.50 and lasts me forever. It works just fine!! 🙂 So here is my secret! ;D

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    May 19, 2013 at 7:47 am

    I went out and bought Suave tropical coconut conditioner (1.18 at my local grocery store, seriously!), and some apple cider vinegar (also under 2 bucks), and I’ve been using that in lieu of my regular shampoo and conditioner since this post, and I have to say. I’m loving it! My hair feels better, and I’ve actually noticed less hair falling out. I will say I can still smell the ACV, though, even after my hair has dried, but I think it might just be worth it.

    I do follow it up, while my hair is still wet, with Redkin Anti-Snap, and Got2B Luster Lotion, but my hair is naturally fine/frizzy/curly/wavy. It’s an odd mixture of hair that straightens and curls easily. However, I’ll be 32 this year, and I’ve noticed in the last few years my hair has thinned out A LOT due to stress, I believe. To help with that, I’ve been trying natural remedies and I’ve noticed alot of new baby hairs/new growth where hair wasn’t growing.

    The treatments I’m using for new hair growth and to keep the hair I still have stronger and healthier are:
    Aloe and vitamin E mixture (and you can actually get these ingredients at your local dollar store). Mix the aloe gel (I don’t have an aloe plant, so I just use the gel you’d use for sunburn and it works- though I do want to get an aloe plant), and vitamin E oil. This I can get from my local dollar store for cheap, though it only comes in about 4000 IU, and that really isn’t much. I’m almost out, and plan to order it online next with a brand that has higher IU (international units), which supposedly works better. Mix the vitamin E oil and aloe together. It produces an almost lotion-like mixture. I put that on my hair, concentrating on the scalp, and then distributing through the rest of my strands. This I’ve actually wrapped in a tshirt (towels are damaging to your hair), and then washed out the next morning. You may need to wash a couple to three times with actual shampoo. This treatment is more for my scalp and stimulating new hair growth. I make sure to massage my scalp alot while doing this, and I also try to massage it at least 5 minutes every day.

    The next that I do, more for my actual tresses, is an egg and olive oil mask. Just mix an egg or two depending on your length (I use 2 since my hair is past halfway down my back), mix them together well,and then cover the scalp with the mixture (I wear latex gloves for this, and it’s a little messy, especially when the hair starts to harden from the mask), then i distribute it through out the rest of my hair. I leave this on for about 20 minutes. I’m not gonna lie, this process for me is kinda gross, but it does produce results. When washing your hair, make SURE to rinse with cold water. This is important if you don’t want scrambled eggs on your head.. seriously. You also may need to wash your hair a couple times to get it out.

    Both of those treatments are things I do about once a week-every two weeks.

    I use Tressume Thermal Creations for heat protection, because I figure even though I don’t blow dry my hair, the sun is going to do some damage, so it can’t hurt, right? I’ve been using Biosilk on my hair for years as a smoother/glossy finishing product but it hasn’t been doing as a great a job in the past year, and it’s kind of expensive for the bigger bottle. I’ll have to try the got2b oil-licious when I run out!

    I also take Nature Made full strength Super B energy complex minis that has vitamin B6 (and all the other B’s), Niacin, Biotin, and Folic Acid (all really good for your hair). I have to say this stuff is a miracle vitamin. Not only have I noticed new hair growth since trying it, but I have so much more energy! I also take fish oil tablets, and 1000 mg of vitamin C a day, as well as adult mult-vitamin gummies (they’re tasty).

    Thanks for all hard work and tips, Cara! (sorry this post was so long)

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      May 19, 2013 at 9:35 pm

      Thanks for all your awesome tips! <3

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        May 27, 2013 at 2:36 am

        Wow. I missed a few words and clearly was tired when I added that post :/. Anywho, I had to add to this post, because admittedly, I am a bit hair obsessed. I love my hair long, and have been fighting the urge to cut it off because, again, I’m getting older and it’s dryer now than ever before, especially since the grays have decided to take up permanent residence. Something I’ve started doing with the vinegar and coconut conditioner is reversing it. I rinse my hair with the vinegar first, work it into my whole scalp and then the rest of my hair (and sometimes my eyes. ouch, seriously, worst. pain. ever.) and then rinse that out with cool water, then put in the conditioner, work that in really well the same way, let it sit for a few minutes while I do the rest of my showering routine, and then rinse the conditioner out. It cuts down on some of the vinegar smell I was experiencing.

        I’m stilling loving the overall effect I get from it. I have to say another big thanks for that tip. It may just have saved my hair!

        Something else I’ve been doing aside from that that’s sort of similar to my aloe/vitamin E oil treatment, is after I get out of the shower, I put in my Anti-Snap immediately while my hair is still wet. I wrap my hair in a shirt, and once it’s dried some and just damp, I’ve started putting aloe vera gel (by itself) on it. Directly to the scalp, and then through the length, and even it out with a wide tooth comb. I’ve noticed a big difference in the softness and texture of my hair with this. It makes the shaft feel thicker, but moisturized, since aloe is moisturizing. It’s a trick that I’m loving. I researched to make sure it’s safe to use the regular green aloe that you use for sunburn on your hair, and I’ve found nothing to indicate it’s not. It does have alcohol and dyes in it, but they do make organic aloe, and clear aloe, which I may try next. I read where some people find aloe too sticky to work with, but it doesn’t make my hair feel weighed down like an actual hair gel, and really isn’t sticky feeling in my hair, and doesn’t make my hair dry crunchy. I use aloe everywhere, with my lotion out of the shower, on my face with my moisturizers. It’s a cure-all for me.

        This may not work on all hair types, but my hair does have a a lot of natural curl/wave. and it’s the perfect combination of thickness/softness without feeling like it has product in it. Plus, I live in Georgia, so it also helps fight the frizz. Just thought I’d share!

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    May 21, 2013 at 2:13 am

    Hi! I’m from Venezuela and just ran into your blog on and loved it!

    I have really long natural curly hair and since I bleached it for the ombre look it’s been really damaged so I’ve been trying everything there is to fix it and last week I tried Avocado and is amazing! Just half avocado with a little bit of olive oil, let it work on your hair for and hour and then rinse with a lot of water and do your regular routine (make sure you rinse it well, otherwise your hair will smell like salad).

    Because my hair is curly it’s naturally a little dryer than others, but since I tried the avocado thing it’s been super soft and shiny. Let me know what you thing! 😉

    P.S: Sorry if I misspelled something.

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    May 21, 2013 at 7:32 am

    I am so trying the vinegar rinse. I have a pixie cut and don’t over-color, over-dry, over-style, etc. However, it still tends to get all tumbleweed-looking, which is tough to hide with such a short cut. I have issues with hard-core conditioners and leave-ins and the like due to my lack of long locks…the stuff tends to gunk up my scalp instead. Also, I already really like Suave products, so this seems a win-win in my book. Thanks for the tip!

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    Suzanne E.
    May 21, 2013 at 5:48 pm

    “Shampooing” with conditioner is something that my stylist recommended to me recently when I was asking him about how to fix the dryness.

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    Sarah K
    May 21, 2013 at 8:46 pm

    I like to stretch my shampooing out as long as I can by using tigi rockaholic dry shampo. When I go to shampoo, I apply a generous amount of coconut oil and let it sit for a half hour. I use morracan oil shampoo and conditioner. I wash my hair in the sink because it is easier to control the temperature (warm followed by cool), water flow, and to let the products sit on my scalp for a minute before rinsing without getting cold. I avoid blowdrying or flot irons, but often I will use them on the first day of my clean hair. I use a wide tooth comb, boar bristle brushes (dry hair only) . I invest in good products that have temperature settings, hair dryers with diffusers and a cool setting, and use a heat protecting spray before blowdrying or ironing. My hairstyle should last a couple days with dry shampoo, or I pin my hair up in buns to extend the length between washing. When I notice my ends looking dry, I apply coconut oil or morrocan oil to the ends.

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    European Hair Extensions
    May 23, 2013 at 12:27 am

    Keep doing the great work so that people like me can learn some nice and new things. I would love to read more posts on your site.

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    May 24, 2013 at 9:40 pm

    Try Devacurl, even if you don’t have wavy or curly hair. It is sulfate and paraben free. I have trouble with dryness, lack of shine and frizz when I use color. Devacurl makes it silky, shiny and soft. I have never used a product that makes such a dramatic difference with my hair!

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    May 26, 2013 at 1:38 pm

    I bleached some parts of my hair back when I was 16 with an amateur hair stylist ( I didn’t know until she was half way through my hair and kept asking others for directions on how to bleach). She left the bleach in too long in the bottom half of my hair and it just ruined the texture even though I grew it out. The thing that has been helping the most is Living Proof’s Nourishing Styling Cream and Aussie’s 3- minute miracle. I use those two on days where I know I’ll just tie my hair up in the bun or when I don’t feel like using heat tools. It helped me get back to better shape than before.

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    May 27, 2013 at 12:26 am

    Hi there! Just stumbled upon your blog and I’ve definitely bookmarked it! I wanted to share what i do. I have very thick curly/wavy dry hair that I’m trying to nurse back to health after years of color and flat ironing.

    2 months ago, i bought a shampoo bar from a lady that makes them at home from home grown and locally sources organic ingredients. It’s really just a blend of oils, herbs, saponified oil, and beeswax. I’ve been washing my hair with that, then rinsing with 1 part apple cider vinegar, and 3 parts water. After the shower, i put since organic, cold pressed macadamia oil in it andlet it air dry. I’ve never gotten more hair compliments in my life since i started this. I’m hooked forever and i was an only salon product girl. it’s shinier, lighter and bouncier, way softer and just LOOKS healthier because it probably is!

    Good luck, and sorry for any grammatical errors, my phone has a mind of it’s own…

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    May 27, 2013 at 7:12 am

    Suave coconut conditioner saved my bleached blonde hair. Couple it with suave strawberry shampoo… You have a great affordable combination! Although I must say it has been difficult to find either of these products at any of the regular stores here on the last six months…. They may have caught on to the obsession?

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    May 27, 2013 at 8:50 pm

    As a hair stylist and someone who is in the process of repairing her prelightened hair, CHEMESTRIES! Go to your favorite salon and get a chemestry. I suggest getting one every two weeks. They do wonders on damaged hair. I personally work for Redken so my chemestries involve the All Soft brand and Extreme brands.

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    May 28, 2013 at 2:05 pm

    So when you add the food coloring to the vinegar is that only for dark hair? Is there another color combination for people with medium brown hair??

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    May 28, 2013 at 5:41 pm

    Question!!!!! First of, I’m IN LOVE with your page! I too have been researching the “co-wash” method and hopefully start my hair journey pretty soon. So ladies here is the question:

    I have very Asian hair.. Early Spring I attempted to go blond but I believe my stylist used the wrong developer. Now, my hair seems dry and brittle. I went to another stylist and she used a different developer and put in more semi permanent color highlights. I would like to start the “co-wash” routine. Is there a conditioner I can use that will go good with color treated hair?

    Thank you in advance!

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      May 29, 2013 at 4:50 pm

      From what I have read, you can use any conditioner that is silicone free. The Suave Naturals line is supposed to be the best for co-washing. Pantene also makes a co-wash. It’s marketed for women of color, but I have heard it works on all hair types.

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        May 31, 2013 at 5:21 pm

        Thanks Amanda. I tried the Sauve Coconut and loving it. Ill never go back to shampoo again!!!! Thanks again.

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    Laura C
    May 29, 2013 at 7:57 am

    I LOVE Moroccanoil products, they aren’t cheap, but they last forever and are totally worth it. I bought the oil ( and have had it more than a year and it’s about half empty. A little goes a long way. The frizz spray is also nice, it’s best to spray it in your brush to use, direct spray is no bueno.

    Amika’s nourshing hair mask is great: I put it on my hair, throw it in a bun and then work out/clean/whatever. I try to leave it in as long as possible and when I rinse it out my hair feels great.

    Nexxus Youth Renewal Elixir is also nice, it leaves my hair feeling soft (which is very rare!) and smells incredible:

    Brazillian Blowout ACAI Daily Smoothing Serum is nice too, helps tame the frizzies. You can very easily use too much though, and it will make your hair look SO greasy.

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      June 6, 2013 at 7:25 am

      Ditto the Moroccan Argan Oil.

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    June 1, 2013 at 12:22 pm

    so for fun I decided with my naturally dark brown hair, permanent dyed black, that i was to do a cruella look and bleached half of my hair blonde ( i mean level 12 BLONDE) you ca imagine the damage done. I’ve tried a lot of treatments but the following proved miracles:

    JOICO K-PAK Reconstructive leave in treatment (try to put a shower cap on and find heat for atleast 15min.. i did like 45..hehe)

    then rinse out w cool water and follow with JOICO intense hydrating conditioner.

    yes, its a bit pricey, but no where near the price of a keratin treatment! and it says it should last 20 something washes! so do it like once month


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    June 2, 2013 at 5:14 pm

    Does anyone have any remedies for hair growth? 🙂 Other than Biotin, of course.

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    June 6, 2013 at 12:28 pm

    I’m not sure if anyone commented about this before, but I actually don’t use shampoo or conditioner. After extensive research (by which I mean killing my hair with so much product) I found that I wasn’t happy with ANY shampoo or conditioner. My hair was either flat and lifeless, frizzy, or greasy. I looked for natural remedies and eventually found that people use a lot of different things to wash their hair. I chose baking soda as my shampoo and apple cider vinegar as my conditioner because that’s what worked best for me. I generally shower first thing in the morning, I take roughly a teaspoon of baking soda (very roughly, I just eyeball it) with a cup of water (again, roughly) and pour it on my head. I rub it in and rinse it out until it feels like it’s all gone. Next I take about a 1/2C apple cider vinnegar and fill it with 2C water and rinse my head with it, leaving it in like conditioner and rinsing it when I’m about to get out of the shower. (The ACV mix will last a couple days, I don’t use the whole 2.5C in one shower). My hair is no longer frizzy, flat or greasy! I recommend looking into it if you’re sick of bad results with shampoo or especially if you have curly hair! 🙂

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    Sharon Price
    June 6, 2013 at 9:08 pm

    I am naturally a dirty blonde. Previously I frosted my hair to give it a lighter, highlighted blonde look all over. After recently deciding to stop dying and go all natural, my hair has been amazing. I use the “no ‘poo method” and my hair has never been healthier. I use absolutely no shampoo or conditioner whatsoever. To make the mock shampoo, I take about one tablespoon of baking soda to one cup of hot water and shake well in a spray bottle. If your hair is oily, increase the amount of baking soda. For the mock conditioner, I use about one fourth of a cup of vinegar to one cup of cold water and shake well in a spray bottle. Apple cider vinegar is great for the rinse, however, if you have oily hair, substitute white distilled vinegar – I do. If you would like a scent, feel free to add a few drops of your favorite essential oil to the vinegar rinse. I suggest tea tree or lavender. When in the shower, spray your hair down thoroughly with the baking soda mixture, scrubbing well into the roots. Rinse. Afterwards, spray just the ends of your hair with the vinegar mix. Let sit while you do all other shower activities and rinse before getting out. My hair was extremely oily before switching and now I have no need to “wash” every day! Store bought shampoo contains harmful sulfates which strip your hair of its natural oils, forcing it to produce more. You will be in love with your soft, smooth, shiny hair after trying this!

    Note: there is a “transition period” after you stop regularly washing your hair. It may get really oily. For some this only lasts a few days, others a few weeks. Don’t give up – give it at least three weeks and you will be in love!

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    June 10, 2013 at 3:48 pm

    I do a hot mask of equal parts coconut oil and raw/ natural honey. Heat for 30sec-1min stir and apply to hair then wrap or use a shower cap and set for 10-20 mins. LOVE it!

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    June 21, 2013 at 10:01 pm

    Ok, I’m super late to the game, but I have the best product ever for hair damaged by bleach. I’m a natural blonde who also went dark and then tried to go back to my natural color. True story, I burned off like 4 inches of hair, and had to go to the salon and get an emergency scalp treatment to help the chemical burns. A lovely older stylist told me about Graham Webb Silk Repair Thermacore Therapy, it’s this two part treatment that foams whenever you mix it together. Use it once a week for a month and it’s like magic. For a few days after you use it you feel like you have this terrible film on your hair, but once that goes away, your hair actual feels virgin. Also, it’s pretty cheap, one treatment is like 2 bucks on amazon, so it’s totally affordable. Seriously amazing stuff.

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    July 9, 2013 at 9:12 pm

    I totally didn’t know that hair is vulnerable when it’s wet!!! Thank you for that! I don’t brush my hair when it’s wet that often because I brush it before I shower so its not tangled (I have pretty curly hair and HATE brushing the natural curls out afterward) but this is wonderful for future reference!!!

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    October 2, 2013 at 11:51 am

    biotin, its a 10, and garnier fructis sleek and shine leave In conditioner are the best things ever! seriously. oh and coconut oil. my grandma keeps some and ill always sneak a lil when im feelin extra dry hair wise

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    October 8, 2013 at 4:49 pm

    I LOVE LOVE LOVE Morocain Oil. I have dirty blonde, fine textured hair that i get highlighted and toned every three months, so there is a fair bit of damage. Morocain Oil is expensive, but my hair is much healthier and softer after i use it and I barely use any to get these results. everyone is different though so i would experiment with a little at first.

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    October 10, 2013 at 3:08 pm

    Hi there! I just came across your blog on pinterest and I love your stuff!!! I found this post and thought I would share what I have learned on my journey with extremely damaged hair. Last November I decided to perm my hair. Worst idea ever because I also dye my hair and I had JUST started realizing that my hair was recovering from the stripping I had done to it 8 months before. Well the ladies who did my hair knew the secret that if you dye your hair, its not a good idea to perm it. So they went on with it without saying anything to me. The result was horrifying. When my hair dried, I looked like a poodle. But they werent even curls. They were like zig zags. The only thing I could do was cry. I cut my hair after all the length I obtained after I damaged it from the stripping. Cut a good 4 inches off. So from then on, I was on the hunt to find the products that would at least control my hair. I tried redken heavy cream, using it like a daily conditioner. But that barely did the trick. I went to a special haircare store and they recommended me a few products. A shampoo for hair thats falling out (Because mine was falling out like crazy) and a placenta treatment in spray form. It helped a little bit, but wasnt what I was looking for. I was going for my monthly cuts, to keep the hair growing out and forming new hair. Just a few months ago I discovered repair rituals shampoo and conditioner by Tresemmee. They have a whole line. THESE PRODUCTS CHANGED MY LIFE. My hair now has life again. It moves like it should, it is so soft and shiny, and I saw results like it said you would, after the first use. I swear to you. I worship this line of repairing products. I also use argan oil bought at sallys and a cream to control the frizziness that is partially my hair, and partially the humidity. Now I can let it air dry and go without having to straighten it (at low heat with a protecting spray (;) And people started realizing the difference within days after. Im so happy with the outcome and I want people to realize the greatness of these products.

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    October 21, 2013 at 7:53 am

    I don’t know if anyone will read this last entry since I am adding this information far after the first entry date. I had my hair so damaged by a stylist once that I was ready to cut it off to the roots. It was recommended that I use only natural products to bring my hair back to life. If I remember correctly, I used avocado smashed up, mixed with egg, mixed it into my hair covered it with a plastic bag and left it on for one hour (the longer the better) then washed it out. This helped put back a lot of the moisture. I used a lot of Extra Virgin Oil every night in my hair. There is mayonnaise that can be used in the hair…I would suggest looking in the interest for natural remedies for damaged hair. Lately when I dyed my hair two times in a row, it became very dry, I used Coconut Oil day and night. It helped. Also, Sephora’s has oil for the hair…go and ask. Good luck.

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    Sarah Kirby
    October 22, 2013 at 12:08 pm

    Hi Cara! Random question – do you have any experience with colored gloss (as opposed to hair dye)? I’m dying to try a teensy bit of red in my hair and I’ve heard gloss is a good, temporary way to go but I don’t know a lot about brands, etc. Any advice?

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    November 12, 2013 at 11:58 am

    My HOLY GRAIL product is Enjoys Conditioning Spray (Ulta, $21.00). It is AMAZING and works well with any shampoo and conditioner. I have worked in many salons and it is the only thing I’ve continuously gone back to. I think I just bought my 8th bottle! It is a leave in conditioner with detangler. It is super light but does SO much. It’s color safe and has UV and heat protection in it as well. OK enough rambling.. try it out! 🙂

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    December 27, 2013 at 1:27 pm

    My favorite hair-saving product is CASTOR OIL. I have curly and colored hair, and I use it before washing it. You just have to leave it for about 2 hours once a week, and you will see the results in weeks. 🙂 My hair got shinier and stronger, and it helps growing faster. It’s amazing!! The only problem is that it’s hard to wash out from your hair, so mix it with olive oil. 😉 I also use castor oil on my eyebrows and lashes because they got so weak and fell out but this helped a lot and now I have thick and long lashes. 🙂

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    February 21, 2014 at 10:18 pm

    Timea, how specifically do you use the castor oil on your hair and eye brows and eye lashes??? Sounds awesome!

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    February 21, 2014 at 10:39 pm

    Emily, a long time ago I heard about this site called Long Hair Lovers that recommended 5 things for hair growth and strength. Biotin, MSM, Silica, Zinc, and a really good multi-vitamin. I had also heard that the LHL (Long Hair Lovers) got a new and improved site. I haven’t gotten on it for a super long time, but I assume it’s still around. It was recommended that more than the suggested amount be taken for good results. I forget how much of each supplement though! I read about this one gal saying her hair grew 2 inches a month. Another gal said after stopping her specific supplementation it took months before her hair would stop growing so fast and go back to its normal rate. They say that how fast your hair begins to grow depends on how vitamin deficient you were to begin with. ****************** I have heard that this hair supplement called Viviscal is supposed to be *incredible*. It costs $50 for a month’s supply. Some hair stylist was recommending it very highly in my Elle or Vogue magazine a while back. It’s what they tell models to use when they need their hair to grow. I have seen it at my local HEB grocery store here in San Antonio. They were selling it in the shampoo and conditioner aisle!

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    May 7, 2014 at 1:39 pm

    What a great post. I actually write an article in german about haigrowth and healthy hair and you post is very inspiring . Thank you 🙂

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    July 20, 2014 at 10:41 am

    Vinegar is an acid, so it does not “condition.” It does strip away product, so you can do a rinse for that purpose and the result will be shinier hair. I do a rinse a couple of times a week, and people are always commenting on how shiny my hair is. Caveat: rinsing with an acid will make your hair fluffy, or what most people prefer to call “frizzy.” Feel free to add a little bit to the water the next time you’re hand-washing your favorite fluffy sweater and you will see what it does to rabbits’ hair. Don’t want to look like a fluffy rabbit? Then…

    * Try washing and rinsing your hair at night. Even if you use a hair dryer (frown), it will actually take several hours to dry, even if it looks dry. When Leonardo Da Vinci invented the hygrometer (measures humidity in the air), he used wads of cotton on a scale because the fibers are sensitive to moisture and readily absorb it. Silly man, he should have just looked at his wife’s hair. The reason your hair gets frizzy on humid days is because it is absorbing water from the air.

    * Silicone and its family members will coat your hair, cutting down on friction and making it smoother in appearance. You can use a serum after showering, or in the shower use a conditioner or cleansing conditioner containing something ending in “-cone” for a smoother look after a vinegar rinse if you want to help counteract the fluffiness, but the acid is powerful.

    * Your scalp produces oil. Duh. Your head has skin growing under your hair, and this skin sheds, but unlike the rest of your body it sheds in flakes. Duh. What is not so obvious is what to do about it. Before shampooing, exfoliate your scalp by gently (!) combing your scalp (not hair) with a fine-toothed comb. Enough with the scratching with fingernails already. (I don’t like when my stylist does this to me, so I usually come in with damp hair and tell her I just washed it. She just rinses it with water and then cuts away, and I am happier.) Now your hair is full of dead skin! Don’t worry, you are going to wash it away along with the oil. Since you washed all the oil out, your hair might look fried and fluffy to you when it dries, so smooth it with hair oil per Cara’s expertise or use a “-cone” conditioner. If you have a feeling of “sand” in the dead skin in your scalp, you might have a problem with yeast. Don’t gag, it happens to the best of people. The yeast feeds on sebum, the oil your scalp naturally produces. If you have oily skin, you might have a problem with yeast/dandruff/higher skin cell turnover. You can use a dandruff shampoo a couple of times a week, and Whole Foods (and others) sells sulfate-free ones if that is your preference. Vinegar rinses can help with the yeast growth on your scalp, and will cut down on the resulting itchiness. Yeah, I said that out loud. Don’t let those dandruff shampoo commercials make you feel ashamed; use what you want and need to make yourself comfortable–don’t be motivated by shame.

    That’s my two cents on vinegar rinses, Cara. Hope it was helpful. I really enjoy your blog and have learned a lot from it, mostly due to your humility. We wouldn’t learn as much about makeup it you weren’t willing to show your bare face; we wouldn’t like reading your comments as much if you weren’t willing to refer to yourself as a dork; we wouldn’t enjoy and learn as much from your tutorials if you weren’t being real about cost, time constraints, and ghetto stuff that’s broke but still works fine.

    Someone asked Julia Child once what she thought of Martha Stewart, and she mentioned that she wished that Martha would give credit once in awhile to those she’d learned things from, instead of poorly impersonating the all-knowing Master of the Universe. Martha Stewart has built herself an empire, but I wouldn’t want to meet her in a dark alley. Her contempt and pretentiousness are scary. Thank you for sharing in a generous, kind way, and for not being a snob. I hope that when they pay you the even bigger bucks your talent can earn you won’t listen to advice to appear perfect at all times and will continue with your self-deprecating humor. It’s very cute and appealing, and makes your sound advice that much more attractive. Thanks!

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    March 7, 2015 at 9:43 am

    I have curly hair, and as everyone knows it is dry!! but it makes it extra curly 🙂 but you mentioned a pin about putting food coloring in vinegar.. I am interested… can you elaborate, or share the site??

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