AskCara My Life

The real reel.

I don’t like having my photo taken.

I mean, I’ve never really been the kind of person who runs to find cover as soon as the camera comes out. (I feel that technique is a fail anyway because it often ends up drawing more attention to you and inevitably you are forced into a photo anyway see exhibit A.)

Exibit A

photo dodging
He can only hold up that bottle for so long, I think the hood was a second attempt that ultimately led to my success.)

Hide or not I just feel awkward having to take them. With as many episodes of Next Top Model as I’ve seen you’d think I’d know how to “Smeyes” by now.
Either way when I look at the camera after a photo shoot there are always gems that never make it to the blog, I figured I could share a few of my latest greatest.



I can’t decide what’s worse. My thoughtful furrow or the lipstick on my teeth. Either way I love when the sunset shines on my hair and colors it bright orange. Orange is SO my color.




The bluest of Blue Steels.
Derek Zoolander: Well I guess it all started the first time I went through the second grade. I caught my reflection in a spoon while I was eating my cereal, and I remember thinking “wow, you’re ridiculously good looking, maybe you could do that for a career.”
Matilda: Do what for a career?
Derek Zoolander: Be professionally good looking.



This seems sexy.

Speaking of awesome photos, there’s something I’ve been wanting to voice my opinion on for a while now.
A PICTURE IS NOT THE TRUEST REALITY!! (this is especially true by way of camera phones)
Perhaps your nose looks roughly the size of the Empire State Building…
Perhaps you look like you have 14 chins…
Perhaps your laugh looks like a crazy horse/gorilla hybrid heard a High-larious joke. (maybe this one’s just me…)

Whatever it is, know this:
The cameras can easily warp proportions and make things appear larger, smaller, closer or further than they really are.
A photo is a 2D depiction of a 3d thing – it’s not a myth, very often the camera really does add 10 lbs.
Photographs are an image of a split second moment frozen in time and taken out of context, it’s quite possible no one has ever seen you looking like that in real life motion.

So don’t get SO bummed out about bad photos.

Secondly I wanted to address another fact:
I am photogenic.
If you think me calling myself photogenic is bragging I have a news flash for you, what I mean by that is, generally I look better in photos than I do in real life.
So I’m not exactly patting myself on the back,  just making a factual statement.
I am only using this as further proof that in a world that seems to be completely driven by them, photos (good or bad) are unreliable, incomplete and often misleading.
If you are using them to judge yourself and others, I’d say get a second opinion…
cause, I really don’t think anyone has 14 chins.

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    March 19, 2013 at 1:59 am

    Loving your make-up in last photo! What lip color/ brand is that your photogenically wearing??!! 😉

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    March 19, 2013 at 2:27 am

    Don’t take this the wrong way, because I genuinely do not mean it that way. (That was my disclaimer) Everytime I read a beauty blog post, be it ANYone’s, I expect to read or see something vaguely shallow. Most of the times beauty blogs come across as flaky. And even though I’ve followed yours for awhile, because that is what it is at it’s foundation (get it? right?? foundation? k, sorry), it is a beauty blog. So again, I always expect it to be somewhat shallow. But you know what? It never is. Even when there’s no deep message in your posts (and there definitely doesn’t always need to be), there’s always humor or fun, or some element of real. You’re a very real, very talented person. And your mission statement says you want to help people see beauty, and I think you do. I’ve learned so many things from your blog (HAC’ing? I mean, c’mon. Makes a HUGE difference). And I’ve actually said this before, but I thought it bared repeating, thank you! Just wanted you to know you actually do make a difference with what you do.

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      March 19, 2013 at 7:42 am

      I totally agree with what you have said. I read a couple of blogs and they do come across shallow at times, but like you said its kinda what you expect. Its very refreshing when you find one that actually has some content , real life and real humor sprinkled in..Thanks Cara , keep it up!

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      March 19, 2013 at 8:55 pm

      Well said. This blog makes me feel like I can be just as beautiful. And more importantly it makes me appreciate the different ways that I am beautiful, even when I’m not photogenic 🙂 Thank you so much Cara.

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    March 19, 2013 at 2:30 am

    *bears repeating. But it could bare it, too. I guess? Whatever.

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    April C
    March 19, 2013 at 5:27 am

    Ummm, if you look a fraction as good in real life as you do in photos, then you are still drop dead gorgeous. Also, I wanted to let you know that I am going through HAC withdrawal. I ordered the Bahama Mama bronzer last week, but it isn’t supposed to get here until Saturday. I’ve been getting by using my broken bits of my old stuff. But yesterday I was in a hurry and left my makeup on the counter and my hubby threw it away *sob*. Resisting the urge to go out and buy something to get me through the week.

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    March 19, 2013 at 5:30 am

    you are THE BEST haha 😀

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    Chloé Elizabeth
    March 19, 2013 at 5:44 am

    Love the blue eyes! What camera do you use Cara?

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    Maddy Cane
    March 19, 2013 at 7:05 am

    I definitely agree that you are photogenic! You always look amazing in your photos! xxx

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    Miss Viola Swamp (@imaqt209421)
    March 19, 2013 at 7:40 am

    I wouldn’t even have noticed the lipstick on your teeth if you hadn’t pointed it out!

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    The Travelogue Blog
    March 19, 2013 at 7:46 am

    I was a brunette who dyed my hair almost your exact same shade, and it looked orange in so many pictures! It bugged me so much that I ended up going back to my natural color, even though the “orange” was a nice-looking melt in real life. I’m so glad that I’m not the only one who has battled this issue. But…you’re still gorgeous!

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    March 19, 2013 at 8:25 am

    OK I’ll have to disagree with you on this whole…I look better in photos than real life thing; cos I watch your Youtube videos and there you are in action, and you still look absolutely stunning! People tell me I’m photogenic but they don’t know it’s only cos I mastered my angles, poses and lighting to a tee :)) Smeyes…not so much 🙂

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    Wendy Cline
    March 19, 2013 at 8:29 am

    Love, love, love this post! Thanks for making us non photogenic people feel better about their 14 chins!!! The blue eye picture reminds me of the alien characters in the new movie “The Host”. Maybe you could do a makeup tutorial after this movie comes out 😉

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    March 19, 2013 at 8:29 am

    I get such a kick out of reading your posts! I just wanted to say thanks and keep on doin’ what you do 🙂

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    Hope Howland (@HHDesigns)
    March 19, 2013 at 8:59 am

    Fabulous post! Love this and I couldn’t agree more!

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    March 19, 2013 at 9:39 am

    It is absolutely true that some people come across better in photos than other people. Also true that some people come across better in video film than print film – I think this is because the “movement” in film is kinder to many peoples features.
    I will promise you that in 10 years you can look back at photos you thought were horrid and they don’t seen so bad… Nothing like a little “aging” to give appreciation to the “youth” you poo-pooed because of a little lipstick on your teeth 🙂

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    March 19, 2013 at 9:52 am

    Cara you look incredible weather it be turning left or right 😉 Thank you for always being so honest and opening yourself up. I too absoutely hate photos of myself, I would love to be as photogenic as you are! I am comfortable the way I look as a woman but swear when I see a photo of myself I get depressed lol, but really. Thanks again I love and always look forward to reading your blog!

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    March 19, 2013 at 10:51 am

    Your blog is my absolute favorite!!! I love the necklaces you have in your second picture! Where did you get them?

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    March 19, 2013 at 1:21 pm

    Cara, I’ve never been as addicted to a blog before. Thank you. These are awesome!!!

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    March 19, 2013 at 3:29 pm

    Thank you, Cara. I so needed to hear this. This past Saturday I went a little brave with my makeup and wore a vibrant pink lipstick (NOT a lipstick wearer at all much less a vibrant anything) on a date with my husband. I was doing my best to pull it off and was not going to let myself remove it – even though I wanted to the first 29 times I looked in the mirror. But by glance #30 it was growing on me and I decided to snap a phone pic and text it to my best friend… you know, so she could get a kick out of my brave new pink lips. What a depressing thing. I took pic after pic and decided that not only did my lips look ridiculous, I looked horrible. I reasoned that what I saw in the mirror was what my mind wanted to see and that the photo was the way I truly looked in reality. That is, a more aged, heavier, and sadly trying to hold onto her youth kind of look. I still wore the lipstick and had a great night the my man but I’ve been struggling since then. Reading this post almost brought me to tears. So thank you for reminding me that my camera phone is not the best judge of looks. I appreciate it! 🙂

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      March 19, 2013 at 9:01 pm

      Oh man, this is me most days. I think I look gorgeous standing a few feet away from the mirror and then one bad picture in horrible lighting and there goes my self esteem. I’ll have to remember the camera is not always true. 🙂

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    March 19, 2013 at 4:16 pm

    Hello Cara, I’m a new “follower” and love, love, love your blog/advice/tips/humor. 😀 I even caught my husband watching your tutorials through the laptop reflection, lol. I was especially captivated by the HAC-ing technique (and so was my husband, btw.) So after watching maybe hours of your different videos, I ran to our bedroom and thought to take a crack at the smokey eye look with the little make-up I had on-hand. I have my everyday/work make-up and that’s it. I did an OK job but I will invest in the products you suggested in the near future. But what I thought was the cutest and funniest of all was when my husband asked, “How much do you think she charges?” (for a make-up application session.) I just wanted to share this story with you (not that you need any uplifting b/c you really are a gorgeous woman). I agree: continue doing what you’re doing, Cara.

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    March 19, 2013 at 5:45 pm

    Seriously looooooooooooved this.

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    March 19, 2013 at 7:59 pm

    You don’t know me, but I get to know you, and I think you are fabulous. This post (and the one about everyone is beautiful) made me feel better about, well, me! I am a recent follower and am learning so much! Someday we will meet and be immediate besties. You are loved in Georgia:)

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    March 19, 2013 at 8:36 pm

    hahahaha great post, your so hilarious. I seem to find I always look horrible and picturesmy nose looks too big and my lips look so thin and tiny I thought omg do I really look like that in real life? Ill often ask my boyfriend am I ulgy but your so right you look different in pictures then you do in real life

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    March 20, 2013 at 9:14 am

    You seriously crack me up! You are photogenic but you are a hot momma in real life too 🙂 You always make me laugh! I miss you friend!

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    March 20, 2013 at 1:34 pm

    I NEVER comment, but I just have to this time. I love this post – so genuine and so reassuring! Totally brightened my afternoon. Thank you!

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    March 20, 2013 at 2:36 pm

    What a great post, I just found your blog and I LOVE IT…and I am not the blog following/commenting type at all. Just wanted you to know I love your honesty and your perspective on beauty, so refreshing!

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    March 21, 2013 at 8:42 am

    I love your blogs carah! This one made me smile. I hate taking pics. I’m so not photogenic. Everything you said is true… Well almost…. Im pretty sure your gorgeous in person. =)

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    March 21, 2013 at 8:47 am

    Ha I love that these are your bad photos…you still look better than I do in my good photos! 😉 And I’m with Shona…I need to know where you got your necklaces in the first photo of you! (especially the long necklace!)

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    March 21, 2013 at 10:14 am

    not only do i think the camera is a falsification of what our true self images are, but i think it has magic powers to tranform our minds into little devilish elves. i have caught myself looking at a picture and thinking immediatly that i loved it. then upon staring at if for a while longer, i started to pick it apart. that stays with you every time you look at that picture. it’s irreversible for me once i get started. the goal is to keep your mind positive. harder than it sounds and is something i have been working on for years. love, love, love, love you and your honesty. wish you could come to saint louis and do something for us here. thanks!

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    June 9, 2013 at 2:26 pm

    Cara,you are always informative and entertaining!!! I always love reading your posts they are mini vacations!!

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    July 23, 2013 at 8:08 am

    OK, I feel like I’m going out on a limb here, but your hair does not look orange in this picture or even in your “Stay Classy” anti-brassy blog. No. It looks strawberry blond, which people pay good money to get. It’s nice. It’s warm. It’s damn sexy. I’m actually a little jealous. End of rant.

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